You've worked hard to gain your independence, and you don't want to give it up. You think that in order to be in a relationship means giving up your independence so you sabotage your efforts at finding love or worse, you don't even try. If this is you, there is hope. You can have your independence and your relationship too, IF that is what you want and you allow your energy to be in alignment with that desire.
Here is a tapping session to get you started.