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Is true love a pipe dream?

February 16, 2012 By

Would you like to discover true love with someone who totally “gets” you and supports you in every way?

I wanted that too, desperately, several years ago.  I just could not seem to receive that in my marriages, and when I found myself on my own after a second marriage, and still dealing with the disabling effects of Lyme disease and fibromyalgia, I really wondered if it was just a pipe dream.  Seriously, whom was I kidding?  It’s not like I had actually learned about good relationships or healthy love from my parents.

I did wonder if I would ever meet a man who really “got” me? It seemed that I was always trying to please and fit in with the person I was with or fight an uphill battle just trying to be me. So many of my clients tell me the same thing. Although they really want to be in relationship where they are true partners, they almost cannot imagine it exists. I was there! I finally realized that if I really wanted a soul mate, a partner, a mate that supported me, accepted me, and loved me as I was, then I had better figure some things out – which is exactly what I did! I want to share them with you.

Fortunately, I had this dream – that I could love and be loved completely with a man who accepted me for both my independence and vulnerability. A tall order?  Many would think so.  Thankfully, I believed in my dream and made it a reality.  There were many lessons I had to learn and the most important lesson was that I had to learn to BE what I wanted to enjoy. I had to embrace all the parts of me that were in conflict and accept what I was asking for in myself so that someone else could then embrace them also.

I learned how every person and experience is a mirror for what is really going on inside of us.  I had to discover and own who I was and what I wanted – not as easy as it seems.

Tonight I am being interviewed by Jaentra Gardener HOST of Healing Journeys on A2Zen.fm radio.  If you are ready to explore how the inner workings of our emotions and subconscious are creating the life you have and want to shift what reality is showing up in your life, especially in your relationships, you are invited to listen to the broadcast.

A2Zen.fm is Internet Talk Radio, an on line School for Self Help, spiritual, healing, talk radio, with educated and expert hosts broadcasting for you!

Tonight I will share my healing journey through relationship upheavals, disabling health, and limiting beliefs about success and parenting.  Rather than allowing these things to define me, I decided to create a story and life that fulfilled me.  I’d love to inspire you to do the same and share how you have it all!

You can download your FREE guide to help you remember the following elements that I will be revealing and so much more.

You will discover:

The #1 thing that will make all the difference in meeting someone who is right for you. It doesn’t matter how many dating sites you join, or men or women you meet, if this 1 thing is not in place, you are wasting your time.

Tapping for Passionate Partnership -How to switch the energy that is actually stopping you from meeting quality potential partners and enjoying thriving relationships. This is one of the most effective ways to clear the hurdles to love.

Understand what passion really is. There is a misconception that passion is just about romance, but it is so much more! Knowing this will ignite all your relationships!

It’s free to listen!  Just click on the link and you can listen from there!

www.a2Zen.fm

 

Much love,

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Who Do You Love on Valentine’s Day?

February 13, 2012 By

It’s that day again. V-Day.  So many look forward to this day in anticipation of how they will be celebrated.  Others plan weeks in advance on how to surprise and show their partner how much they love them.  Others hope with all their might that someone will save them from the loneliness and embarrassment of not having someone who loves them, or worse  - they do have someone who disappoints them.

What is sad to me, is that we all do have someone who loves us and whom we love.  It ‘s a wonderful time to show appreciation for those people in our lives.  The retailers have made it a day about romance and couples, yet you have the power to create this day to have meaning in any way you choose.

Love is the connection to all!  Love connects you to your heart, mind, health, wealth, and passions, family, friends, co-workers and most especially to your source which connects you to all the above and more.

Love is the air we breathe, the essence of our being. Love has the power to heal, to forgive, to succeed, and to connect differences into seeing the unity. Love begins within. To me love is synonymous with joy. Love IS a joyful heart, a joyful mind, a joyful body, and a joyful soul.

Here’s the thing that so many of has missed – We don’t have to FIND love. We ARE Love. LOVE IS always here, if you allow yourself to see it and feel it. Unfortunately we have learned to value our worthiness to be loved through the experiences we’ve had, the words that we’ve heard, and we base our own love on the misguided judgments of others outside of ourselves.

Many of us have been taught that love hurts, and is judgmental. We’ve had an epidemic of unhealthy love from our churches, teachers, leaders, and parents. This was not intentional. People always do the best they can with who they are and what they have learned. I don’t offer this in criticism, but in understanding and acceptance. We have learned about love from people who taught it through their expression.  The good news is that we can learn a new way to love and be loved.

So, it is not so much about finding love, as it is about uncovering the love that is already there. The beautiful, brilliant expressive LOVE that is your birthright is calling to you to accept your value, your worth, and your joy! It takes time, energy, and intention, and it is worth every bit of it. Your whole life will change when you truly tap into your own source of love. Shift the relationship with you first, and watch all your relationships improve, with your children, parents, co-workers, clients your siblings and your friends. Everything begins with you and it is transformed with love.

This Valentine’s Day I invite you to reconnect with love in all its forms. Yes, it is a frustrating time to be single with so much emphasis on couples and romance.  Yet is an opportunity for you, as a single woman.

You can create a loving ritual for yourself or for you and your single friends.  You could also celebrate with your children or nieces and nephews with the intention of expressing love and gratitude and reaching out to another, not with defeat of being alone, but with joy at knowing love in your life. How special they would feel to be so valued in a special way and you will be giving and receiving love in a very authentic way.

Let Valentine’s Day be a time to express love and gratitude to all that touch your life.  Reach out to other singles or people who are lonely.  Set a date with you and your friends and create a vision of the perfect Valentine’s Day with your ideal mate. Celebrate the couples in your life that you admire and who have relationships that inspire you.  Rather than feeling left out or steeping in the energy of emptiness and lack, tap into the joy of what you see in them.

Write a love letter to your future partner and soul mate, inviting him into your life, thanking him for all that you share together.  Write it in the present tense.  Describe the day you have just had, how you feel when you are with him. Seal it in an envelope and put it somewhere and forget about it.  However, come back to that feeling of love, joy, companionship, partnership, romance, whatever it is that you truly desire in a relationship and want to experience in life with the man who is worth waiting for.

Valentine’s Day is a great day to begin to create the experience of love and relationship that you are ready to invite in.   Your subconscious mind does not know the difference between if it happening or not, it only knows what you feed it.   So, feed your mind what you want to create in your life as if it is already here.

Have your single girl friends over and discuss the great tips from one of these books, again raising your energy of love by focusing on that which you want to create in your life.  You might enjoy giving one as a gift to someone special for Valentine’s Day, or giving one to yourself as a gift. Any of the books that are listed are beautiful expressions of love, offer great relationship advice, and are a wonderful alternative to a card. A new favorite of mine (which is not listed) is “The Mastery of Love” by Don Miguel Ruiz.

Here are some other ideas you can do alone or in celebration or with friends:

  • Create a video expressing your love with pictures and your own words.
  • Make a CD with songs that inspire you
  • Visit people in a nursing home who have no family.
  • Donate your time at a local charity.
  • Join a class to improve your relationship and dating skills or something of interest to you.

Remember whatever you do, let in be in the spirit of love and giving – even if to yourself!  The intention with which you do something is as important as what you do.  Be present in the spirit and generosity of love whether you spend time alone or with others, and Cupid will reward you.

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Oh The DREAD of Valentine’s Day!

February 9, 2012 By

Sadie Jackson, a fictional heroine, is back on the dating scene for the third time. After two trial marriages, she is bound and determined to get it right. She can be nauseatingly optimistic and enjoys recounting her dating experiences with humor and compassion. Follow her dating escapades in this work of fiction. 

It’s here again!  That dreaded day of hearts, chocolates and flowers!  How unoriginal, how boring, how lonely!  Here I am, facing another romantic love holiday – Valentine’s Day with no one special in my life to celebrate this day with me. How did another year come and go without Prince Charming sweeping me away to the land of never ending love.  As much as I used to believe in the magic of romance and finding a man that will love me forever, I am beginning to have some serious doubts.

I think it just may be easier in the end to adjust to my life alone rather than this awful rollercoaster ride of anticipation expectation, and disappointment.  It’s not like I am really alone.  I have a son in Alaska – he loves it there, though for the life of me I cannot fathom why.  We email and Skype and see each other occasionally.  There is my best friend, Lindy.  There are lots of friends, co-workers, family – but that is not the same as having a man to share my life with. I really want a man, and I am about ready to give up – No, I did not say that.  Sadie never gives up, although it may be time.

This year though, I think I will try something new.  What could I do that would give me some measure of pleasure and spread some love.  After all, who says that Valentine and Cupid have to be about romance?  What if I just reached out and loved someone who is as lonely as I am.  We could be lonely together – HA!  Better yet, maybe we could find some joy instead.  I must be getting soft in my head.  Where are these thoughts coming from?

“Hey, Lindy, I think something is terribly wrong with me.”  I whined into the telephone.

“What’s wrong, Sadie?’  Asked Lindy, my dearest of friends.

“Well, I am actually considering doing something nice for someone on Valentine’s Day instead of enduring the absence of Prince Charming or hoping for an invite from anyone just to escape being alone on Valentine’s Day,” I explained.

“Sadie, that’s a great idea!  There are so many things you could do.  Go to a nursing home and visit with all the people there who have no one to celebrate the day with. “

“That’s not quite what I was hoping for, Lindy.  Got any other ideas?”

“Why don’t you invite your other single friends over?  Have everyone bring a dish.  Play some inspiring music and you could each write a love letter to the man you are waiting for.  You know write them as if they are already here and you are celebrating that love in writing.”

“Lindy, where in the name of Cupid did you get that crazy idea?  That’s the silliest thing I have ever heard!” I remarked to my well-meaning friend.

“You know Sadie, I heard that from a love coach, and it wouldn’t hurt you be open to something new.  How’s what you have been doing working, by the way?”  Lindy is my friend and she can be brutally honest to a fault.

“Point taken, and I am open to something new which is why we are having this conversation.  Come on Lindy, help me think of something,” I pleaded.

“I’ve got it” Lindy shouted.  Didn’t your grandmother pass away this year?”

“Yes, and how is that sad reminder helping?”

Lindy replied calmly, “I would bet that your grandfather is really missing your grandma and his first Valentine’s without her will probably be really hard for him.”

“Great, so now there are two of us wallowing in our misery.  Lindy, are you trying to annoy me?”

“Hear me out, Ms Wench,” she scolded.

“I bet your grandfather would love a visit from you.   Ask him to tell you about how he met your grandmother. He will be so delighted to have the company and to relive the fond memories he had with his wife.  It will be nice for you hear it.”

I hated to admit it, but that wasn’t such a bad idea. I never have heard his side of the story.  To be quite honest I wasn’t quite sure how my grandmother managed to stay with him all those years, and I pretty much had told her that many times.  It had never occurred to me to talk my grandfather about their relationship.

“You know, Lindy, that might just be something I consider.  I will bring the fixings over and cook a nice meal for the two of us, and ask him about my grandma from his vantage point.  Thanks, you always come through,” I said gratefully.

And it wasn’t so bad.  Actually, my grandfather was thrilled for the company and the chance to reminisce.  He did love his wife, and he had me laughing at some of his antics trying to get her attention in the beginning.  He told me about some of the tough times they went through, and how my grandmother stood her ground on a few occasions, once she even threw one of her high heels at his head as he ran racing out of the room escaping her wrath.

“Grandmother?  No way!”  I exclaimed in disbelief.

“Oh yes!” he said with great delight.  “There wasn’t much she let me get away with.  That woman knew how to stand her ground when I was misbehaving in her eyes.”

This was not a side I remember seeing of my grandmother.  I wish she were here to corroborate.  Yet, if that is how he saw it, who am I to question it.  That would have been a good time for me to kiss him, and end the evening.

Oh, how I wish I had.

I so did not need to hear about their love life as in sex life.  EW EW EW!!  My ears are still ringing and I cannot erase the images of my two grandparents in back of their station wagon in a park in their late seventies.  There are just some things I do not need to know!  That is one of them.

So another Valentine’s Day disaster – at least this one didn’t make me cry, just cringe!

And to be honest, aside from the ending, it was one of the best Valentine’s I can remember, but please do not tell anyone that I said that!


 

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The real success to love lies within you

January 27, 2012 By

This is such a great time of year for renewal, setting priorities, and giving attention to what you most want to enjoy in your life.  With the winter holidays behind us, and Valentine’s Day looming before us, I want to offer you as many opportunities as possible for you to learn new ways to improve your life, live it more fully, and prepare for this year to be the year that  you welcome your ideal mate into your life.

One of my favorite things is collaboration.  Connecting with other like- minded, like- hearted and like-spirited people who share the energy of love, service, and appreciation inspires me to reach higher and hang on when it would be easy to give up.  I have teamed up with some amazing  inspirations this month and want to share that with you!

 

On Monday, January 16, 2012 I joined Kiva Leatherman from Wise Women Network, on Contact Talk Radio where she hosts a weekly show, “A Woman’s Worth.”You can listen to the podcast where I shared with Kiva and her audience:

  • Discuss how to have inspired relationships at home and at work
  • Reveal my process to turn on your love switch.  Without this, you will not get the results you want in your relationships.
  • Explain how you can avoid the same relationship mistakes from your past
  • Disclose the most effective way to clear the hurdles you have to love

 

 

Sunday, January 29th, 2012 I will be a guest with Joe Gandolpho on his weekly radio show. Joe Gandolfo is a conveyor of powerful ideas and principles that change lives. He is the author of “The Great Teenage Myth, Quit Living That Darn Lie” and I am honored to be joining him.  I will be exposing my secret ingredients to create and cultivate relationships that sizzle and last.  We would love to have you join us!

 

 

My good friend and colleague, Alan Hickman is offering you 2012 Perfect Mate Attraction Planning today.  Even though we wish for love, most of us are anchored in limiting beliefs from outside authorities about the possibility of truly having a great relationship. As a result, we show up in our lives in ways that push love away—without even realizing it.  When you’re able to identify yourself as the true authority in love, you’ll become magnetic to the love of your life.

2012 Perfect Mate Attraction Planning
Friday, January 27, 2012
10:00 AM – 11:30 AM Mountain Time
12:00 PM – 1:30 PM Eastern Time
9:00 AM – 10:30 AM Pacific Time
$20.12 Click Here to Register Now!

This process is like a breath of fresh air.

Your registration includes:
90 Min Live Interactive Teleclass
Work book + Recording of the class
Attracting Your Perfect Mate: From Dinner Date to Soul Mate E-book ($20.00 value)
Click Here to Register Now!

 

 

There is a  free online even that will help YOU make 2012 the BEST year of your LIFE?

What if achieving Ultimate Health & Wealth was as simple as learning some simple strategies to remove whatever is blocking you from success.

Gabbi Taube is hosting a brand new Teleseminar Series called “Coaching With The Masters”. She has gathered 23 top Masters, Authors, Leaders and Healers from around the globe such as Gary Douglas, Marci Shimhoff, Ann Taylor, Jeff Vacek and many others, including me.

This 8 week Teleseminar is FREE to you and you can listen from the comfort of your home on the phone or your computer.  How does it get better than that?

It began January 1, 2012 at 9pm EST  (8pm CST, 7pm MST & 6pm PST) and there are still 5 weeks left to indulge yourself with guidance from the masters of health, wealth, and love.   I know that the host has been releasing past presenters, so you can listen to those that you missed

Each Sunday, Monday Wednesday & Thursday at 9pm EST, tune In for NEW F*R*E*E! SEMINARS THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE

Once you register you will have access to the calendar and can listen in on the topics that interest you. Can’t make it live? No problem! A free replay will be posted for 48 hours after each interview.

Coaching With The Masters

“Create Ultimate Health & Wealth”

IT’S A GREAT WAY TO START OFF THE NEW YEAR!!!

Click Here To Join F.R.E.E!

Please mark your calendar for February 1st when I will be presenting Secrets to Passionate Partnership – Getting it RIGHT this time!

In this presentation I will:

  • Reveal my process to turn on your love switch.  Without this, you will not get the results you want in your relationships.
  • Explain how you can avoid the same relationship mistakes from your past
  • Disclose the most effective way to clear the hurdles you have to love

Click Here To Join Coaching With The Masters  “Create Ultimate Health & Wealth” F.R.E.E!

Hope to see you on the series!

 

 

Well folks, you’ve got a few options here to decide to honor your desire for love, commit to yourself to take some inspired action and create the energy of invitation to your soul mate.  This can be your last year without that special someone to share you life.

Much love,

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Welcome to Wherever You Are!

January 26, 2012 By

This song was one of my inspirations after my second divorce, still healing from intense chronic lyme disease, missing my life and family, and searching for the gift I was meant to share with this world. Thanks, Bon Jovi!

I hope it inspires, uplifts, and gives you hope!  You are exactly where you are meant to be.  Your life until now has been preparing you for the life you are to create and live.  Love is your guide.  I am here to help you navigate your journey to true love and passionate partnership.

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Breathing Life Into Your Soul Mate

January 4, 2012 By

How do you begin your day?  Do you jump out of bed, dash to the gym, and then rush to work from there?  When the alarm wakes you from slumber, do you give yourself a moment before the mad rush of your day takes over?  You have so many responsibilities between work and family.  Most of the time you are rushing from one place to the next without stopping, then fall into bed exhausted at the end of the day, or lie awake with your thoughts spinning with all you did not get done.  Who has time to find Mr. Wrong, let alone Mr. Right?

I’d like to suggest that you try something new.  Let him find you.  Put the Law of Attraction to work for you. Wake ten minutes earlier each day.  For those ten minutes, breathe slowly and deeply.  As you do this, smile and feel the pleasure in your body and mind.  You are giving yourself several gifts in these ten minutes.

You are filling your body with nourishing breath, releasing tension and relaxing your body and mind. At the same time, you are also energizing your cells bringing the deep fresh oxygen in and taking toxins out.   You are also setting your day in a positive way.  You will be centered, relaxed, and energized from a sense of calm rather than a frenzied mad dash.   You are creating healthy cells for a healthy body.  You do want to feel great when you meet Mr. Right, don’t you?

‘This is all well and good, but how is breathing deeply at the start of my day going to help me find Mr. Right?’ you may be thinking.   The answer is simple.  While you are breathing you will be focusing your attention on that which you are creating, in this case a loving and healthy relationship to enjoy. You will be feeling how wonderful this is and expressing gratitude for the opportunity to invite love into your life.  This will trigger joy in your body, and you will begin your day in a happier state.  Over time you will experience this happiness through more of your day.  Happy people attract happy people.

More importantly, by deep breathing and focusing on your breath, you quiet your mind from the constant chatter of thoughts that reside there.  So your mind is receptive to new thoughts, which translates into a newer energy.   You are less resistant to holding onto the old non-supporting thoughts that go unnoticed most of the day, yet take up residence in your energy body and mind and create your experiences.

You will program your sub conscious with loving thoughts of being ready for love. After several slow, deep breaths, begin repeating, “I am love.  I am ready for love.”  As you exhale repeat, “I am love. I am ready for lasting love.”  Use any affirming words that resonate with you.  Do this for ten minutes every morning, and raise that energetic flag to the universe to send this message of readiness to your soul mate.

You are engaging your energy in a positive and loving way.  You are speaking to your subconscious mind and creating a new thought pattern, which will create new pathways in your brain. These pathways create a network that spreads into your cells, creating new cellular memory. In addition, activating all of these energies in your mind and body raises your vibration and this energy is felt in the universe.

That’s why it is so important to be mindful of our thoughts and feelings.  What we put out is what we receive.  By activating the feeling and visualizing being in love and happy in a healthy relationship you begin to create that reality by design.  Beginning each day in stillness, breath and visualization meditation is one way to do this.

So stop chasing after Mr. Right and start activating your energetic attraction tower to invite him home to you.

You can check out the many benefits of deep breathing in the article, “18 Benefits of Deep Breathing and How to Breathe Deeply?”.  Another more in depth article boasting the health benefits, is Deep breathing — the truly essential exercise.

 

to your love,

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How I finally had healthy relationships, found myself, and my ideal love partner

December 14, 2011 By

My own personal healing and growth in the physical, spiritual and emotional realm has been greatly enhanced by practicing EFT regularly.  I have invested in working with several highly qualified and trained EFT coaches who have facilitated my own healing and growth in many areas of my own life, including love and relationships.  I have trained and continue to train as an EFT practitioner because I am so impressed by the quality of results that I receive personally and that my clients experience.  I am not sure which awes me more – my own transformation and healing  - or those of my clients.  Yet, I am continually impressed with the results.

I absolutely attribute using EFT in finally releasing the blocks that kept me from letting the right man into my heart, mind and life.  Using all the other steps in my 6 step blueprint also made the difference, but it was in doing all the other steps that I was able to see where my blocks were, where healing and release was needed, and tapping has moved me forward and continues to do so.

So what is EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)?

EFT is a gentle coaching technique that helps you to release the past and create your future.   A “unique form of acupuncture without the needles,” that uses the ancient Chinese meridian system combined with energy psychology, EFT can offer relief from negative emotions, trauma, fears and many physical symptoms.

EFT balances the energy system with a gentle tapping procedure on the face and body, which stimulates designated meridian endpoints to increase the flow of qui or energy.

EFT is a highly effective method of reducing the impact of trauma and stressful events from our lives eliminating doubt, fear, and beliefs that are a result of the unconscious patterns in our life as well as the conscious experiences that have contributed to the thoughts that cause these beliefs, ideas and concepts that often keep us stuck from moving forward.

EFT is very powerful for eliminating unconscious emotional distress that gets in the way of your being happy, moving forward, and making choices that support you.  You can tap on any emotional, feeling, belief or thought that causes you distress – anger, sadness, doubt, fear, being stuck – contraction in any state. It will move you toward expansion, joy and freedom – to LOVE.

Gary Craig, a Stanford Engineer, ordained Minister and Personal Performance Coach founded EFT.   It is because of him, and his visionary gift, that we are able to practice, teach, and share EFT worldwide today.

Ingrid Dinter had the honor to film and train with Gary in many workshops all over the United States, and to witness his amazing gifts and generosity first hand.  I have had the privilege to be coached and trained in EFT by Ingrid and I am eternally grateful to her for the loving and intuitive guidance in my personal and group tapping sessions, and  for her passionate teaching of EFT to professionals so we can share our expertise with the world. I am in her year long VIP Mentoring program for EFT certification with AAMET.

It was through Ingrid’s love, friendship, mentoring and support that I was able to move through the pile of S#@T inside of me that was stopping me from loving myself and letting others love me too.  She showed me how powerful tapping and EFT can be and that I had a gift to share not only with EFT but with my relationship and love coaching.  She has been my loudest cheerleader and special friend. Thank you Ingrid!

I also want to acknowledge and thank Pamela Bruner and Margaret Lynch,  two other amazing EFT experts who have helped me in my personal journey.  Although I had the love and personal relationships piece conquered, two issues were roaring for my attention – my relationship with sales and marketing and money.

Pamela Bruner, is my business coach and her intuitive and gifted expertise in EFT has helped me in ways I can not even describe.  I am truly grateful to her guidance and support.  Being one of her private clients and members of her mastermind has provided me much needed support in bringing my gifts to the world of single professionals who are single and sick of it.

I have participated in group tele-classes with Margaret Lynch and two of her home study courses.  Being an energy healer myself, and incorporating chakra work into my tapping for love, I gained tremendous value with Margaret focusing on money and the chakras.  I love Margaret’s work and hope to someday co-create workshops with her.  Money and Love – 2 biggest challenges!

Another source for me in my own personal growth, healing and success as well as sharpening my own coaching and EFT skills is The Tapping World Summits hosted and created by Jessica Ortner and her brothers, Nick and Alex.  I have joined in every year and purchase them each year.  There is a wealth of information provided and the spectrum of professionals and applications for tapping is phenomenal.  The Ortners are pioneers in the vast exposure of EFT.

Why have I shared these resources with you?

Because I am so grateful for the results in my life and with my clients incorporating EFT into my full spectrum programs, it is important for me to acknowledge and thank them and also to share them with you.  We all have different needs and challenges. Healing and  growth is not a one time only deal.  It is life long, and finding the right fit is instrumental in achieving your goals.  Having support is also vital to your success.  As you can see I have support in many ways, and these are just the ones I am sharing in regards to tapping and EFT.  I would  not be who I am or where I am without the supportive communities I have chosen to be surrounded by or if I had not invested in my happiness and love.

I feel it is important to offer the following disclaimer about EFT:

While we have received many reports concerning the benefits of EFT, we do not claim that the results described in the many testimonials and other success stories included on this website and on our videos and other recordings are typical of what EFT users experience, and we do not represent that you will achieve the same or similar success. Indeed, you may receive no benefit whatsoever.

If you are to practice EFT on your own for major trauma or issues, please make sure that you are in a safe and supportive environment and that help is nearby should you need it.   Ideally seek the guidance and expertise of a trained EFT professional.

 

The best way to understand EFT is to experience it.  Click here for a complimentary session to discover how Cheri and EFT can benefit you 

Download the tapping points and basic steps for EFT:

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Facing Our Fears

December 5, 2011 By

As I embark on the project of writing a book, so many fears have shown up for me. I am still working through them. I am fortunate that I have so many tools available to me to use, and I am engaging many of them. Meditation, yoga, walking, energy work, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and encouragement from colleagues who believe I have so much to share.

What fears could I possibly have – me who can speak so easily and has strong opinions? I stand in front of audiences and easily share my stories, advice, and questions. I have been a guest on radio shows, and even had a weekly and monthly spot on The Sisters of Sizzle, and yet I have been reluctant to write. This blog has been lonely, and Sadie Jackson, my fictional character has not been seen for months. The first two weeks when I would sit to work on my book, the words did not come. This was perplexing to me. Even when I tried using Mac Speech, the thoughts got stuck.

I have been on a personal quest to find what has been blocking me from moving forward in my business, where am I stuck? My personal life is amazing, and I am so enjoying all that is happening there. I have needed to experience this joy in my heart and in my life; it was a personal mission for me. I want to keep it, so there is one fear that shows up again and again, when I allow myself to be honest, and although I have tapped (EFT) on this issue, I have not yet truly hit the source of it. I fear that I cannot be successful in business to the degree that I see it and still have harmony in my life. There I said it. I wonder if anyone else suffers from this.

And now that I have given it a voice, I wonder if I have put that fear to rest, and for right now, I am choosing to be put more attention in creating my personal life, trusting and knowing that everything happens in its right time, and when I am ready, then things will change. That feels so much better to me, and also more empowering. It took courage for me to admit that I am making a choice rather than blaming it on fear.

So what else have I discovered in this search and what could I possibly fear to keep me from writing. This is a big one and I was consciously unaware that it was even an issue for me. I have been afraid to speak my truth from my heart in the printed word. I feared what people would think, especially those who know me. I feared putting myself out there in such a public way. I am told by those who have worked with me, and met me that what draws them to me is my honesty and openness. So, now that I am aware I have been harboring this fear, it is time for me to release it and step into my truth which is a sincere desire to connect millions of people to their own joyful hearts and to love. How can I do this if I hide behind my fear? How can anyone step into his or her truth with fear?

Fear is just a belief. We can believe what we want. I want to believe that I have what it takes to sit at computer each day and share my heart with you. I want to believe that I can easily and effortlessly write my book, and gracefully share it with the world, which brings up another fear. What if after I write my book, I am disappointed with the results? I worked through this fear last week. What I had discovered is that I have a habit of disappointment – letting others and myself down, and well as being let down. Whew! That was a great discovery. We cannot clear or face the fears that we don’t even know we have. That’s why I love energy work and EFT – it helps me see what has been hidden so deeply in my subconscious.  I also find that the more I connect to the love in my heart and my passion behind sharing my message that the fear dissolves.

There was another glimpse into my deeply hidden unknown through this process of what was keeping me stuck from writing. An emotional memory of not being allowed to speak about what was going on at home when my brother and I were children. Even though I have come to blab about almost everything through face-to-face interaction, somehow putting it in written word for the world to see resonated with that fear from childhood. It is amazing what we store in our bodies. It is even more amazing to bring to light what is there and release it!

Once we shine a light on fear, it has nowhere to hide. We can replace it with courage, action, and love.

Where in your life can you shine a light on your fear so that you can release the fear and step into love?

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Power, Strength, Royalty, Feminine and Love

November 17, 2011 By

In mediation class last night, we ended with looking at creative rings in our energy fields for next steps and the integration of the creative rings which represent our body, mind, and spirit – Thank you Seven Levels Coaching.

I was intrigued with what I saw – a dark shadow of a man in a cowboy hat leaning on his side and tipping his greeting towards me – “Interesting, and WHAT?”  were my  reactions.  I stayed with it.  Then I saw the majestic beautiful elephant which I have been so drawn to in the past months, especially since reading “Water for Elephants.”  The intelligence and especially the emotional intelligence of this beautiful animal just spoke to my heart in a way it never has.

In my mediation vision, the elephant appeared raising it trunk and placing a foot on the dark figure of the man.  “Okay, now this is intriguing and WHAT?”  I questioned again.  I have learned to sit with my visions, ask my questions, and trust the answer and message will unfold if I it does instantly makes sense or reveal itself to me.

I immediately googled, “Elephant Symbolism” and settled on the post I will share with you.  I just read it, and so many answers are clear to me.  I will do my best to briefly describe my own connection and awareness of what seeing the elephant and dark shadow of man were revealing to me when I asked, “What is the integration of the body, mind, and spirit creative rings expressing?”

First, confirmation of the personal and professional journey in which I travel.  My path has been one of connection with true highest self and highest power.  This has included:

1.  My own healing from complete disability from Lyme Disease and Fibromyalgia (which continues)

2.  Attracting the partner in life who is perfect for me in a way that I consciously spent creating and cultivating after 2 divorces.

3.  Reviving my relationships with my children, and family members and truly being a loving energy that is mutually supportive and serving.

4. Holding the space and connection for my extended families and core family.

6.  Offering my experience and wisdom to those who are ready to invite love into their lives in all the glorious ways that it exists, and especially to share enjoy their life with their idea of a soul mate, while also enjoying empowering relationships in other areas of their life, and to find and stay in their own power.

7.  Making a difference in the lives of children by teaching them what powerful creators they are, and helping their parents create the foundation for modeling healthy, loving relationships.

What all this has in common is me – knowing and understand me – what is important to me, what is my purpose and my passions, what makes me tick, who am I am here to serve, and what messages am I to share.  What is right for me, so that I can be centered and fly at the same time and live my highest truth and allow others to do the same.  I wanted to make sense of my life so that I could allow it to unfold more purposefully, powerfully, passionately and to manifest what I desire.  I love to teach, to speak to collaborate to share, to bring people together in love.

When I am strong in ME it makes for a powerful WE!  This is true for everyone!  We are connected and one.  When we stand firm in our individuality

we offer more to the collective

partnerships complement

relationships thrive

What I understand in the image I saw and in reading the following article,  is that I am on the right path, and I am also reminded where I still have work to do.

In another post, I will share with you more of my personal growth and areas where I have been working in the energies of the feminine and masculine – a favorite topic of mine.

I hope that you enjoy the following article as well as my post, and that if either resonates with you in any way, you will share that with me, on facebook, or with your friends – together we reach higher.

http://speakerfortheanimals.blogspot.com/2006/04/elephant-symbol-of-highest-true-self.html

With love,

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Holiday Humbug or Holiday Hooray – You Choose!

November 2, 2011 By

As we approach the holidays, some of you may have a tingle of excitement as you anticipate the hustle and bustle of the season, looking forward to seeing family and friends to celebrate. For many however, this can be a very challenging time.  Anxiety, dread and worry, are more the norm for so many.

The overinflated emphasis on gifts becomes a chore and takes away from the pleasure of the connection, love, and appreciation for many people. For some, there are so many things to do in addition to the already overloaded responsibilities.  And for many more, the stress of facing another holiday alone feels unbearable.

Doesn’t sound too Happy or Merry, does it?  Yet I know from experience having been on both ends of the spectrum that you can create holiday bliss while honoring what you want and need during this time. You don’t have to straddle the tight rope between sacrifice, obligation, and strain and total seclusion or intense loneliness.

I have one client who has spent almost every year of her life at family gatherings that left her lifeless because she absolutely did not want to attend.  She felt so out of place and hated being the only single adult no husbands or children. Yet she went year after year traveling to be there because it meant so much to her mother.

I have a friend who compared having to choose Christmases between her mother or with her mother-in-law preferable to choosing between having a knife in the eye, or an ax to her head.

Another client cried at the thought of his first Christmas morning in 30 years without waking up to the chaos of his children and grandchildren as a result of his recent divorce.  Another young woman is devastated at thinking about having to deposit her two children off with their dad at noon for the second year.  Last year she just went home and sat in her dark house after leaving them.

Okay, you get the picture and some of you may have no idea of what I am talking about while others will relate too much.

So what is one to do when faced with options that are so unappealing and seem like you have no choice?

First all of understand that you DO have a choice.  So you may not necessarily love the situation and feel like you don’t have a choice in it, you do have a choice in how you view it, how you react to it, how you think about it.  This one fact alone offers you such freedom.

That’s just one of the secrets and how to make it work for you that I share in this FREE audio.

 

I sure hope it will help you enjoy a happy holiday regardless of your relationship status!!

 

Click here for access to the audio:

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Savor Each Moment

October 21, 2011 By

Today, as I was eating a roast beef spinach wrap from Joe’s Meat Shoppe on Route 111 in North Hampton, NH, I was suddenly seized with such appreciation for what I was eating.  I savored each bite, noticing the tastes that were consuming my mouth.  For some reason, the roast beef seemed even tastier than usual.  Granted, I was very hungry, yet I don’t think that was it.  I have been actively setting an intention to be present and focused in all that I do.  My body has been releasing long held memories that no longer serve me, and as I surrender and let go at my deepest unconscious level, it is making room for me to be show up more consciously, and I am noticing that I enjoy each moment as if it is a new experience – with wonder, joy, and appreciation.  I see beauty in ways I have not noticed before.

Another sensory experience yesterday was the warmth of the fire in my office.  Recently I switched my office to a room in our house which I had envisioned being my office when we bought the house two years ago.  Hold those visions, folks, breathe life into them, put attention on them, and then let go of the tension until it is seamless and right.  So as I was enjoying this space, not only was I filled with gratitude for finally seeing this piece of the puzzle come into place, I felt even more appreciation for being able to build a fire in the large fireplace, listen to the crackling sound, smell the sweet smoky scent, and be wrapped up in comfort.

I also appreciated that the new set up allowed for my son and I to sit side by side at my desk comfortably as we tackled his homework.  I reclined and rocked in a favorite chair as I was guided through a meditation by one of my support team.  Sunday I sat on the floor as a mom and her two children enjoyed a session where they learned their top passion and tapped with Tappy Bear as they told Tappy how much they missed their dad who is in Afghanistan.   Many pictures were drawn on the chalkboard, pictures were colored, puzzles were assembled, and my heart jumped when the young boy spelled out, “tappee bear is fun” with letters from Bannangram.

Why am I sharing all these pleasant experiences with you?  Because each moment that I sit in appreciation fills my mind, body and consciousness with joy.  It raises my vibration so that what I am sending out to the universe and to my highest power is letting them know to send more my way.  I much rather be receiving more joyful experiences in my life, and as I notice, feel, allow, and appreciate – I fill with peace and presence.  I remind myself and I invite you to take time to be present in your life, in all that you do whether alone or with others.  It is one of the greatest gifts you can share.  As you pay more attention to and savor moments, you will notice that you are experiencing peace and love more regularly.

Take a deep breath in….. hold it………and release it slowly.  AAAAH – now doesn’t that feel wonderful?

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Are You Slamming the Door on Love?

September 14, 2011 By

In this world of long to do lists, busy days, and loads of responsibility, it is so easy to miss the little doses of love that show up in your life.  I received several emails yesterday from people who want to share their life with someone special, yet they are so busy they barely have time for themselves.

Love is all around you, and we often do not even notice.  Yesterday, one of my cousins sent me a text asking if I wanted to take advantage of the gorgeous day we were having on the NH Seacoast, and go for a paddle.  The sea was flat, the water was warm (well for this area) and the sun was shining.

As much as I myself had wished earlier in the morning that I had time to go out, I felt compelled to focus on the list I had in front of me for the day. As I was replying to her, “Oh don’t tempt me.  I am very focused on work.” I had a sense that there were many opportunities here, so I finished the text with, “However, I am sure I will be ready for a break by 4:00.”

As it turned out we went out about 5:00.  It was amazing.  We paddled on our boards and talked for over an hour on the stellar ocean with the sun preparing to set.  Another cousin had come by, and she enjoyed a walk on the beach with her dog and break from her everyday stressful life.

This was love, folks!  I connected with people who are important to me.  We all enjoyed the time, and basked in the abundance of the moment and the appreciation that we could do this.

So, I have still have things on my list, and I will do them from a much better place.

My question for  you:

Where in your life can you give yourself even a 15 minute break to notice and  experience love?

If you are not doing this now in your life, is it possible that for some reason you really are not ready for a relationship – are you slamming the door shut?

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Where Can You Find Love?

August 30, 2011 By

Recently my husband and I travelled to Belo Horizonte in Brazil to attend a wedding. Our son-in-law is from there and his brother had invited us to celebrate in his special day. A wedding, how could I not attend? Well, there were plenty of objections that Burt, my husband, and I tried out between us. It’s a long (very long) flight. It was costly. We don’t speak the language. Did he really want us there or was he just being polite. It’s summer in New England, and we treasure our summer days on the coast. There were plenty more.

Yet, we both checked in with what is important to us – our passions, and our ticks – and this helped us to make the decision that was in alignment with our being. So of course, we attended.

I allowed my fears, doubts and objections to surface, allowed them their voice, and even thanked them for their attempt to protect me. Then I chose to connect to love and making a choice from there. I love to ask the question, “What would love do?” In this case love was being supportive to our family. Our son –in-law is our family and had an opportunity to meet his family and experience the culture in which he was raised. That was important to us.

Love was choosing adventure, something new together, and being open to experience and possibility. It was absolutely the right choice for us! We were so embraced community. Burt and I were wrapped up in the arms of love in every moment we were in Brazil with his daughter, her husband and his family. Our hearts and mind were open to receive without judgment or expectation, as well to offer our attention and sincere appreciation at being included so warmly. Had we listened to our objections, doubts, and excuses – all examples of fear, we would have missed an experience that we will both cherish forever.

  • Where in your life are you letting the voice of fear stop you from being open and present to the wonder that is waiting for you?
  • What relationships are you holding expectations and judgments that may be preventing you from receiving love?
  • What situations can you ask yourself, “what would love do?”

Karen Drucker on her album, All About Love, sings “What Would Love Do” – I find it very inspiring.

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Finding Mr, Mrs Or Ms Right – Be Passionate About You

July 1, 2011 By

So many men and women tell me they want a mate in their life. Some just do not want to be alone. Others think it will make their life easier. While many others just want to have someone with whom to share their life. How many of you have considered the possibility of sharing yourself? I believe at the deepest of levels we as humans, are made to connect and not to be alone. However, I also believe that in order to truly connect with another person, we must first be connected to ourselves. We must know who we are at all levels, accept and love what is there. It’s not just me who believes this, ask any dating or relationship coaches, and they will tell you the same.

When we take the time to know what is important to us, to tap into our heart and embrace our passions, we have so much more to offer someone else. When we are willing to offer the whole of ourselves with honesty and trust, then we attract someone who also is willing to do the same. When we are living our lives fully, embracing all that life has to offer we are sending a message of happiness and gratitude to the world. The universe responds in kind. What you put your attention on grows stronger in your life, so if your attention is on lack, need, loneliness, rather than on contentment, acceptance, and passion then don’t be surprised with the results.

Being alone is an opportunity to embrace the beauty of who you are, to see the gift of yourself, to enjoy your own company, to find what makes you tick, to discover what you are most passionate about in this life.

Being alone is a gift to yourself to fine-tune what it means to live your life whether alone or with another. If you do not enjoy your own company, how in the world do you expect someone else to enjoy you?

If you are bored and lonely and cannot see the joy in this moment regardless of what you are doing or who you are with, then what makes you think someone else can change that for you? When you are clear about who you are and what is important to you, and put attention on those things, your life will be fulfilling and rewarding.

When I was a teenager, I received a card with the following line included as part of the poem, “If you are not happy with what you’ve got, how can you be happy with more?” This makes so much sense to me and has been a reminder for me all these years to be present and grateful for whom I am and what I have whenever I find myself complaining.

Are you excited about sharing yourself with another who complements you, or are you desperate to share your life with someone? Can you see the difference between the two? In the first you are present, alive, whole, and very attractive, confident that you will wait for the right one. In the second you are sad, wanting, needing, and willing to take anyone. Who would you rather BEE- attractive and confident or needy and desperate? Conversely what kind of mate do you want to attract? Be the love you are seeking and you will find it.

If you are not happy with yourself and your life, how will you attract a mate who is happy with themselves or with you, for that matter?

Two happy people create a happy couple.

Take the time alone to get to know who you are, your values, your passions, and what is important to you. Enjoy you! Love you! Embrace you! Then get ready for magic.

I LOVE my life!! I love my family Sunday dinners! My perfect day includes walking on the beach. I love meeting my friends for our weekly lunch. The rock climbing group I joined rocks! I’ve reconnected to my love of art and sketch twice weekly. Attitude of Gratitude. The perfect partner for me laughs easily and often. We spend quality time together. My perfect partner listens with an open heart and mind. My perfect mate loves to cook and entertain. My perfect mate is an engaged parent, yet sets healthy boundaries for his kids. I love that my partner respects my need for alone time. We enjoy taking pictures of nature together.

Cheri Valentine is your love connection expert. She specializes in guiding busy professional leaders and business owners to find long lasting love to enjoy as much happiness and success in their personal lives as they do in their career. Cheri’s philosophy inspired love by design combined with her strong, supportive nature is reflected in her signature coaching programs. She believes everyone deserves to love and be loved unconditionally, to experience life passionately and to forge happy and healthy relationships. Cheri’s own efforts to make sense of her ended marriages and relationships fueled her determination to get it right, be happy and find the right partner. She has succeeded and recently married her perfect mate. She wants to show you how she did it, and how you can, too, just like the many men and women she has helped to find love. Visit www.CheriValentine.com for your FREE 4 step kit to Attract Your Perfect Mate.

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Stop Looking for Your Type

June 30, 2011 By

You think you know your type. In fact, you are sure of it. You have actually dated them, perhaps even married them – more than once on both counts. So, let me ask you, if you know your type so well, why are you still looking for Mr. Right?

Get over your type and open your mind, your feelings, and your experiences to seeing who may be right for you. If knowing your type were working so well, you would not be looking. With that harsh realty acknowledged and accepted, are you ready to move on?

Of course, there is the other side of the coin. He’s NOT my type. As well as you think you know your type, you also think you know who is not your type. This is as a big a problem in my opinion as knowing who your type is.’

Let me share this with you. If I had continued to judge potential dates by types, I would not now be married to the most amazing man and someone who is so perfect for me. I had started to date all kinds of men and learned how interesting, funny, intelligent, caring men can be. I also learned what it felt like to be with men – it was different, than what I thought my type was.

I am so glad that I got out of my own way, finally, and just trusted in the process of knowing the qualities, characteristics, attributes, personality, and way of being together that was right for me. This took time, reflection and making sense of my past relationships. It was worth it.

I am so happy that I stopped looking for my type, and began to open myself to possibilities. Now I am happily married to someone who I could have easily dismissed as ‘not my type.’

Chemistry grows over time and is based on many factors. Yet, so many women dismiss potential men because they don’t “feel” it right away. If you are basing a lifetime of happiness on whether or not your heart jolts at first sight, you are selling yourself short and missing out on many opportunities.

Give a man and yourself a chance to interact, talk, and know him before you decide there is no chemistry. The other thing to keep in mind is that we often gravitate to what we know and feels comfortable to us on a subconscious level. Yet, if that were working so well, you would not be single and looking.

It takes courage to try something new and break out of your comfort zone. People, who do, often tell me how happy they are. There is a whole world waiting for you that you don’t even know exists and that includes amazing relationships with men. How will you know unless you give it a try?

Sounds easy. Yet if it were, we’d all be with our perfect partners. Divorce would be non-existent. Online dating sites and agencies would not exist and there would be far less singles. As Lord Chesterfield eloquently has said, “You must look into other people as well as at them.” Look into their good, their gifts, and see them. Give yourself and the people you meet this gift and watch the quality of your relationships improve.

Then watch the quality of the men you meet improve. Love is not easy, yet it is glorious when you find it. Open yourself to the possibility of love in people and places you might not expect. Mr. Right is waiting for you.

By the way, for you men this applies equally to you! Your perfect lady is waiting for you to recognize her.

Cheri Valentine is your love connection expert. She specializes in guiding busy professional leaders and business owners to find long lasting love to enjoy as much happiness and success in their personal lives as they do in their career. Cheri’s philosophy inspired love by design combined with her strong, supportive nature is reflected in her signature coaching programs. She believes everyone deserves to love and be loved unconditionally, to experience life passionately and to forge happy and healthy relationships. Cheri’s own efforts to make sense of her ended marriages and relationships fueled her determination to get it right, be happy and find the right partner. She has succeeded and recently married her perfect mate. She wants to show you how she did it, and how you can, too, just like the many men and women she has helped to find love.

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