Why is it so difficult for many to receive support, help, advice, gifts, love, happiness, and abundance? Everyone wants these things, often complain about not having them, and yet refuse to allow it when offered.
How many times have you declined an offer for help, thinking it’s easier to do it yourself, they won’t get it right, you don’t have time to explain what you need, or you are just simply uncomfortable saying yes.
Ironically, the ones who are most willing to give until it hurts, are also the ones who refuse to ask for or accept support.
Such a conundrum, isn’t it?
For many women, there is this driving need to do it on their own, be fiercely independent, and be in complete and total control. This is counterintuitive to the feminine energy of receiving. It is loaded with the masculine energy of doing, proving, defending.
The masculine and the feminine energies are meant to work together. There is a divine union and flow that is meant to create harmony and perfection. Yet, so many women and men are overloaded in one or the other and haven’t learned to allow both energies to work in their favor.
So many of my clients struggle with this challenge to slow down, relax, and enjoy all the support they have. This also stops them from receiving and appreciating all that the universe has for them.
Does this describe you?
Although we tend to view this as a struggle specific to women, I have seen it with men too.
Receptivity begins within your own heart and mind. I have said it many times before and will say it many times more. Everything starts with you. Self-questioning can be so powerful in discovering what keeps you from receiving with grace and ease.
- Where in your life can you begin to simply receive the bountiful gifts of nature or the simple pleasures that feed your soul?
- Who is available to lend you a helping hand? Are you willing to ask for the support that you need?
- Have you asked the angels and guides who are more than willing to act on your behalf if you only ask them?
- Can you easily and graciously just say, “thank you,” to compliments?
There are many reasons why we struggle to receive. It has not been a quality that was taught or validated in many families, cultures and societies. So, you have to break through a tribal mentality, crack the code, and create your own validation and acceptance – acceptance is a quality of receptivity.
So is surrender – ouch – such a scary and misunderstood word. To me surrender means relaxing control, and releasing whatever keeps you from not trusting or allowing something into your life. Surrender means to relinquish the need to force or make things happen or to be a lone ranger.
You have the choice and the right to question what you have learned and believe, then to either accept it as your truth or challenge it. Then decide what is true and right for you. You are accepting you.
Acceptance, surrender and receptivity make us vulnerable – and that is the scariest thing of all for so many. Many of your experiences may have left you feeling vulnerable in a weak and fearful way if you expose your heart, your desires, and your needs. However, by healing those past hurts you create a healthy space to allow others to give to you. You give them the gift when you receive. It’s a lovely reciprocal relationship.
Are you ready to experience how the energy of receiving can help you experience harmony and bliss?
If so, join me for this episode of #TappyBreak, where we will silence the self-sabotaging beliefs that keep you from opening your heart and your arms to receiving all the love, support, abundance and joy that is yours for the taking.