How to Tap Into the Energy of Receiving

energyWhy is it so difficult for many to receive support, help, advice, gifts, love, happiness, and abundance? Everyone wants these things, often complain about not having them, and yet refuse to allow it when offered.

How many times have you declined an offer for help, thinking it’s easier to do it yourself, they won’t get it right, you don’t have time to explain what you need, or you are just simply uncomfortable saying yes.

Ironically, the ones who are most willing to give until it hurts, are also the ones who refuse to ask for or accept support.

Such a conundrum, isn’t it?

For many women, there is this driving need to do it on their own, be fiercely independent, and be in complete and total control. This is counterintuitive to the feminine energy of receiving. It is loaded with the masculine energy of doing, proving, defending.

The masculine and the feminine energies are meant to work together. There is a divine union and flow that is meant to create harmony and perfection. Yet, so many women and men are overloaded in one or the other and haven’t learned to allow both energies to work in their favor.

So many of my clients struggle with this challenge to slow down, relax, and enjoy all the support they have. This also stops them from receiving and appreciating all that the universe has for them.

Does this describe you?

Although we tend to view this as a struggle specific to women, I have seen it with men too.

Receptivity begins within your own heart and mind. I have said it many times before and will say it many times more. Everything starts with you.  Self-questioning can be so powerful in discovering what keeps you from receiving with grace and ease.

  • Where in your life can you begin to simply receive the bountiful gifts of nature or the simple pleasures that feed your soul?
  • Who is available to lend you a helping hand? Are you willing to ask for the support that you need?
  • Have you asked the angels and guides who are more than willing to act on your behalf if you only ask them?
  • Can you easily and graciously just say, “thank you,” to compliments?

There are many reasons why we struggle to receive. It has not been a quality that was taught or validated in many families, cultures and societies. So, you have to break through a tribal mentality, crack the code, and create your own validation and acceptance – acceptance is a quality of receptivity.

So is surrender – ouch – such a scary and misunderstood word. To me surrender means relaxing control, and releasing whatever keeps you from not trusting or allowing something into your life.  Surrender means to relinquish the need to force or make things happen or to be a lone ranger.

You have the choice and the right to question what you have learned and believe, then to either accept it as your truth or challenge it.  Then decide what is true and right for you.  You are accepting you.

Acceptance, surrender and receptivity make us vulnerable – and that is the scariest thing of all for so many.  Many of your experiences may have left you feeling vulnerable in a weak and fearful way if you expose your heart, your desires, and your needs. However, by healing those past hurts you create a healthy space to allow others to give to you. You give them the gift when  you receive.  It’s a lovely reciprocal relationship.

Are you ready to experience how the energy of receiving can help you experience harmony and bliss?

If so, join me for this episode of #TappyBreak, where we will silence the self-sabotaging beliefs that keep you from opening your heart and your arms to receiving all the love, support, abundance and joy that is yours for the taking.

8 Ways To Stop the Self-Sabotage Cycle

sabotageWhat exactly is self-sabotage, how do you recognize it, and what do you do about it?

Let’s explore these 3 questions.

Self-sabotage is a behavior that interrupts, interferes or blocks you from doing something that is of benefit to you or something that you want.

Here are just a few examples:

  •  You want to write a book, yet every day when it’s time to write, you do something else instead.
  • You have a program to fill and avoid marketing it or making the calls to interested and potential candidates.
  • You want to experience more vibrant health, yet resist changing your diet or lifestyle to help with this goal.

There are many factors that contribute to self-sabotage.

Fear – fear of success and fear of failure. Fear to get started, fear it won’t turn out the way you want. Fear. Fear. Fear – there is no end to what causes fear.

Doubt – doubt you can do it, doubt you will be supported, doubt that your family, friends, colleagues, etc will accept it.

Change – you are comfortable with the way things are, you have to let some things go, embrace something new, you don’t like change.

Lack of Focus – not being clear on what you really want or on the outcome you desire, having too many things to do and not prioritizing, not putting enough attention on something, not setting clear intentions and goals, feeling overwhelmed and anxious.

The list is endless of what contributes to self-sabotage.

At the very basic core of it though, I believe it is shame and not feeling that you deserve it.

This is often very unconscious and not something you would easily identify, yet I see it every day in my clients, and in myself.

Here are 8 ways to move out of self-sabotage.

  1. The first step in anything is awareness. Identify where you are not acting on things that are important to you or are avoiding taking the steps needed for a desired outcome.
  2. Question if this is something that you really want. Maybe it’s not. It might be a “should,” and you don’t really want to do it. Why is that? It might be that you do want it, yet it’s fear, doubt, or someone else’s judgment that is keeping you from embracing it. It might be that you really don’t want this, and it’s someone else’s desire for you. Getting to your truth is key.
  3. If you determine that this is something that you really do want and it is your truth, then put a clear intention in place of what you want to achieve. Create clear and measurable goals. Envision how it feels to be taking the steps toward it. Feel how wonderful it is to enjoy the result. Take consistent action, and build the muscle of accomplishment. Focus your attention fully and be present with your dream, desire, and each step of fulfillment. Tune into to your why and let that fuel you.
  4. Affirm daily who you are being and what you are creating. State it in the present tense  “I am” statements are so powerful. Connect the feeling of its truth. Activate the vibration of attraction with both your words and your feelings.
  5. Do the internal clearing that contributes to you being able to do the above steps. I love using energy healing, intuitive reading, journaling, meditation, journeying, channeling our younger self, older wise self, and future self, past life regressions, soul retrieval, matrix re-imprinting, future progressions, and tapping. I use them all and share them all with my clients.
  6. Work the conscious with the unconscious. Be conscious in your desires, thoughts, word and actions. Be present in your desires, thoughts, words, and actions; yet be aware that your unconscious is fueling the conscious so you must work them together.
  7. Allow spirit and intuition to guide you. Learn to listen to your whispers of truth. Access the feeling place within you, give it attention, acknowledge it and then reframe it.
  8. JOIN ME FOR #TAPPYBREAK. Every week is a new topic. Each episode will help clear an aspect of what contributes to self -sabotage, limiting beliefs, and feeling undeserving.

THIS WEEK we specifically tackle self-sabotaging or self-defeating thoughts, words, actions and feelings. Isn’t time for you release what’s holding you back from stepping up and being seen and heard in all your glory?

Please come join me in the green before and after. I just LOVE to meet you, see you face to face, and have that real time conversation. Be part of the conversation on the event page. Let’s build community and freedom together.

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Previous Episodes:

2/12/2015         Sometimes I Feel Like a Fraud

1/29/2015         Self Promotion is Hard To Do

1/22/2015         Unleash Your Hidden Leader

1/15/2015         Why Is So Hard To Ask For Help?

1/8/2015         Get Real With Your Resolutions

12/25/2014         How To Manage and Reduce Stress

12/18/2014         Learn to Love Your Numbers

12/11/2014         I Don’t Really Love Networking

12/4/2014         I Did Everything Right, So What Went Wrong?

11/27/2014         It’s Not Easy to Be Thankful

11/20/2014         When Is It My Turn?!

11/13/2014         Quiet Your Critical Voice

11/6/2014         Release Your Hidden Fear Around Money

10/30/2014         Move from Disappoint to Confidence

10/23/2014         Setting Healthy Boundaries

10/16/2014         Releasing Fear of Financial Abundance

10/9/2014         Stepping in to Your Entrepreneur Shoes

9/25/2014         Profit is Not a Shameful Word

9/18/2014         Do You Really Need to Work So Hard

9/11/2014         Stop Feeling Guilty About Success

9/4/2014         Letting Go of Guilt

8/28/2014         The Power of Release

8/21/2014         Dwell in Contentment

8/14/2014         Tapping Away Disappointment


About #TappyBreak

#TappyBreak was created to addresses the challenges of being an entrepreneur, unleash your inner leader, blast through the blocks that keep you from trusting your inner knowing and moving forward with grace and ease.

Every week Cheri leads you through a quick 15 minute tapping session addressing such issues as procrastination, writing blocks, overwhelm, control, speaking phobia, family loyalty, money blocks, and many other challenging areas that may be keeping you from having the success, happiness, or results that you desire.  You have a voice, a mission and a passion.  Don’t let unconscious and limiting stories keep you from sharing it fully and receiving all the abundance that comes with it.

By combining a light tapping on acupressure points while talking, you can move past the emotional and unconscious blocks that are creating your current results. When you tap on an issue often the underlying or unconscious triggers will surface so that you can acknowledge, express and release the charge or the power it has so that you can move into expansion and grow that huge vision you are holding for yourself and the world.

For access to the full library on YouTube,

Cheri Valentine is a Shamanic Healer, EFT Specialist, and Spiritual Coach for your personal and professional success.

Cheri’s mission is to lead the way and empower women leaders to amplify their innate wisdom and potential in their personal and professional lives. She teaches you how to create your own recipe for success in your life, health, business, and relationships. Cheri’s innovative and integrative approach to healing, coaching, mentoring and masterminding offers practical, spiritual, intuitive and energetic guidance for breaking down the barriers to success. She inspires others to bring their own mission and passion to life, play by their own rules, and express themselves powerfully and magnetically.

For your free short audio mediations to Start Your Day With Success, visit


Love Is Everywhere – Even In Business

choose to be your authentic selfI was inspired by Sharon Jenkin’s post, “What Does Love Have to Do with Business? Everything …” As a former relationship coach who helped disappointed singles find love, and someone whose name is Cheri Valentine – I love LOVE. Yet, in all honestly I never imagined myself as being a Love Coach, although that’s how my friends and colleagues referred to me.

Here’s why. To me it was never about finding love outside yourself (although for 2 of my 3 marriages, that’s what I thought it was.) It was about getting it right. I had a vision in my mind about what love and relationships could be (should be.) I also wanted to “get it right” so my children would know it and emulate it.

Since I did get the “love and relationship” thing figured out, I helped hundreds figure it out for themselves. I was grateful for that. When they got it figured out, then they modeled that for their children and so on, and so on.

Yet, something inside kept gnawing at me. This wasn’t it. This wasn’t the “it” I knew I was always meant to do. So I followed the signs and the lead of my clients who showed up at my door. I have always loved my clients, and when I didn’t, I went within to discover why which led to my own growth and shifting of clients who reflected the internal vibration of me.

It was this love of my clients that has helped me to evolve and grow as a mother, wife, grandmother and entrepreneur. In the reflections of my newer clients I saw leaders, entrepreneurs, creative minds, and courageous souls.

I saw individuals who wanted love and began to find it within their own hearts. This gave them the courage to question, break rules, and forge their own path and step into their leadership shoes.

They embraced love and in so doing began to:

Love their business and their life.

Love the adventure of it all.

Love their clients.

Love their support team.

Love. Love. Love.

Because they loved, their business grew and so did their happiness.

It’s not always easy, especially if the lessons of love you learned taught you not to trust, or rely on anyone, or to expect disappointment. If that was your love lesson, then as an entrepreneur, a leader, a visionary, you have a handicap that can keep you from all the love your business and your clients deserve.

So please, do the inner work so that your outer life can match the inner vibration of trust, integrity, confidence, support, and success.   Now, that’s love and it has everything to do with success and creative leadership.

If you want to really know who Cheri Valentine is, you can watch this video. At 10 minutes in I tell Dennis M. Duce  and Nicole Levac who I am and why – words that surprised even me (it has to do with love.)

Shamanic Healer and EFT Specialist, Cheri provides healing, coaching, mentoring and mastermind services to help entrepreneurs and leaders amplify their innate wisdom, confidence and success in their personal and professional lives.

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The Value of Recognition

RecognitionRecognition is one of the basic human needs. Yet so many leaders miss a major opportunity to connect with their community through recognition.

In an article by Sharon Jenkins, she states, “A creative entrepreneur is someone who wishes to chart their own pathway to business success. Their business vision encompasses more than achieving a capital gain but also making a real difference in the world, nation, city, community or neighborhood that they do business in.”

I would add to this that one way to make a difference is to recognize the people you lead, the people in your community, and your clients and customers. Acknowledge their strengths and contributions. Express gratitude to them.

Robb Braun, in his post It Begins With Mastering Our Communications, says “…communications done right that facilitates solid problem solving, course correction without conflict, a spirit of belonging, and the genuine expression of a job well done. Good, solid, effective communications can make all the difference, even if other things aren’t going so well.”

When your communication is infused with loving kindness, you will establish a positive environment for your community to flourish. You will more easily recognize where clearer communication is necessary, or a different approach may be needed. Recognition is an important element to effective and positive communication in any environment, whether personal or in business.

“Influencing others is one of the most important leadership skills you can possess,” states Kathy Garland in her post on 5 Skills You Need for Success.  I agree with this. What a more positive way to influence others than by recognizing them for their wisdom, gifts, insights, and the value that they add to your life, business and vision.

I joined Nicole Levac, Dennis N. Duce, Kristin Drysdale, Katrina Pfannuch, and Jamie McConochie for a Network Round Table Discussion of the Importance of Recognition, especially in an online world. Let me tell you there was a whole bunch of AWESOMENESS in this panel. I feel truly blessed being invited by Nicole to participate. I am so grateful that she recognized that I must be part of that discussion. I didn’t quite understand myself until after the show. I realized that what I do is help leaders to recognize their own greatness.

We loved and answered these great questions posed by the audience watching the live discussion.

  • How can we possibly appease everyone while maintaining a “politically correct” balance?
  • How does recognition for false “personas” affect a person’s true need for the recognition they want/need? 
  • What about those that don’t want the recognition – want to be in the background? Is it still a need/must have?

We also answered the following questions posed by our panel host extraordinaire, Katrina.

  • Recognition is one of the basic human needs. Why do you think people struggle with recognition – personally and/or professionally?
  • What are some simple ways a person can explore recognizing their own value?
  • How do expectations impact our ability to accept and honor recognition from others or offer recognition to others?

I learned as much from this lively, spiritual, interactive conversation as I shared from my perspective. Let me know what you think!

How To Get Over the Discomfort of Self Promotion


You are a business owner. You provide products and services that light the world on fire in a very positive, empowering and healing way. You help leaders, healers, children, writers, teachers, parent and/or _______(fill in the blank for you)  step up their game, shine their light, and contribute their unique gifts to help others.

So why don’t we know about you?  If what you offer is the best kept secret, what’s the point? I know, I know. You’ve been taught it’s impolite to brag. You don’t want to appear narcissistic. It’s rude to draw attention to yourself and blah, blah, blah.

Don’t you think it’s time to ditch those outdated and imposed beliefs? Where did you learn them anyway AND how’s that working for you?

I get it. No one enjoys being around obnoxious braggarts who are full of themselves. Yet, what if there was another way to promote yourself that was not so discomforting? What if you could express your gifts in a way that was inviting to others who really need what you offer?

THERE IS, and if you are willing to release the limits and beliefs that have stopped you from singing your praises in an authentic and inviting way, then join me for #TappyBreak.

You will identify the source of your discomfort of self promotion and heal it. Then you will embrace another perspective that allows you to freely express who you are and what you help people do.

#TappyBreak was created to addresses the challenges of being an entrepreneur, unleash your inner leader, blast through the blocks that keep you from trusting your inner knowing and moving forward with grace and ease.

Every week Cheri leads you through a quick 15 minute tapping session addressing such issues as procrastination, writing blocks, overwhelm, control, speaking phobia, family loyalty, money blocks, and many other challenging areas that may be keeping you from having the success, happiness, or results that you desire.  You have a voice, a mission and a passion.  Don’t let unconscious and limiting stories keep you from sharing it fully and receiving all the abundance that comes with it.

By combining a light tapping on acupressure points while talking, you can move past the emotional and unconscious blocks that are creating your current results. When you tap on an issue often the underlying or unconscious triggers will surface so that you can acknowledge, express and release the charge or the power it has so that you can move into expansion and grow that huge vision you are holding for yourself and the world.

For the full library of #TappyBreak videos, click here. 

For your free short audio mediations to Start Your Day With Success, visit



The Collaborative Energy of Effective Leadership

?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????Why is leadership important? Someone has to lead the way, set the tone, provide the focus, have the vision, communicate the vision, and gather the right team to bring the vision, intentions, and goals to life and manifestation.

Leadership to me is collaborative.

Yet, I often thought of a leader as the one at the top who shone like a lonely star in the dark night sky.  I thought leaders existed in kingdoms or corporations. It was obvious who the leaders were and that wasn’t me. For some reason, I never saw myself as a leader and yet when I reflect on the many layers and experiences of my life, I’ve been leading since my first marriage, actually since high school and probably even before then.

We are all leaders in our own way. So let’s explore the different areas of leadership.

On the personal side, someone leads a household. Either one or both parents set the tone, the rules, and the expectations. They model how leadership is done for their children, yet not all are good or even great leaders. Some lead with tyranny or an iron fist, controlling and stifling creativity and thought leadership in their children.

However, the parents who grow effective and creative leaders run their homes with love and compassion providing safe and predictable boundaries. They communicate clear expectations, and allow their children the freedom to explore, create, make mistakes, evaluate and change course. They provide a strong foundation, rudder and support. Parents who ask open-ended questions and listen with patience and not criticism teach their children how to discover their own answers and greatness. These children then become successful leaders in their respective endeavors

Coaches and teaches are leaders. They are responsible for specific outcomes and their style of running their teams and classes very much affect the results that students have.

Managers and supervisors are leaders, whether in retail, small business or corporate America. Storeowners are leaders. Solopreneurs and entrepreneurs are most definitely leaders and if they haven’t figured that out yet, it’s time to start!

The challenge is that not everyone sees their inner leader, nurtures it or takes responsibility for it. Leaders are not just the ones at the top. Everyone is a leader in some capacity.

So what kind of leader are you?

  • Do you find the balance between setting the course with a solid foundation and allowing the contribution from everyone involved?
  • Do you micromanage and control every aspect of what you are leading or do you encourage and allow everyone involved take responsibility and ownership for their contribution?
  • Do you trust that you’ve gathered a cohesive team who connects to a common vision and each separate contribution creates the collective whole?
  • Are you open to growth, change, expansion, and learning?
  • Do you instill resentment, apathy, and indifference by your attitude and actions as a leader or do you hold space for your vision and your team to grow and perform in a positive and supportive environment?

When I look at my own experiences, the places where I have excelled an contributed and produced my best is when led by someone who saw my potential, gave me space to run with my ideas and encouraged me to do so, who treated me with respect and expressed gratitude.

Whether teachers, employers, or colleagues I excelled and performed with dedication, creativity and commitment to those who led with the collaborative spirit of creative leadership.

So where in your life do you lead? You may feel you have to control every aspect of your business, project, team or family. This is not leadership. This is tyranny. It does not foster or encourage creative success. You may need to undo some outdated beliefs you incurred in your life from bad leadership whether from parents, teachers, coaches, or employers. Unconsciously you may be storing experiences, emotions, and memories that feed mistrust or control issues. You may expect that people will disappoint you, that you have to do it yourself for it to get done “right” and you believe there is only one right way. Would you benefit from support or guidance in learning how to lead more creatively?

In a prior post, I described qualities of creative and successful leaders. I also created a video to help unleash your hidden leader. My colleague, Robb Braun, a Success Strategist, wrote a great post on the responsibility of leadership. Kathy Garland, who inspires visionary leaders, described 3 qualities to strengthen the leader in you. Sharon Jenkins also posted this informative piece on emerging leadership.

If how you are leading is working for you, carry on If not, we should talk.

Unleash Your Hidden Leader

Unleash Your Inner LeaderEveryone has some capacity to lead. We are all leaders in some way to some people. In this blog post from the other day,  I describe some qualities that are found in successful leaders.

But the best leaders in my opinion, not only embrace the qualities of confidence, creativity, open mindedness, intuition, commitment inspiring, positive attitude and integrity. They find their own style. They may be inspired and learn from other leaders, but in the end they allow their own unique style to emerge. They build teams and attract people who resonate with their energy, mission, passion and purpose.

I have coached several clients into discovering their style of leadership by helping them identify their passion, intention, and their big WHY. They developed clarity about the qualities, attributes, and characteristics of their ideal team. They begin with a clear vision and intention. When they connect to their inner fuel, it turns up the heat of their leadership qualities. They begin to lead with their unique energy, style and flair.

Everything begins from within. If your confidence is blocked, or your creativity hidden, or you are not tuned into your intuition, you are sabotaging your efforts for success. If you stay stuck in thinking things need to be a certain way and are not open minded, plagued by negativity, or not completely honest with yourself and others, you are not fueling your collective vision for success. If something is stopping you from being 100% committed, you will not create a committed team and once again your success is compromised.

Often, what is blocking you or keeping parts of you hidden, is unconscious. You may not even be aware that you are not fully committed. You think you are, yet when you look at around at your employees, team, support system, it’s not aligning. Chances are you are not fully aligned with your vision.

There are many ways to lead. Some may be building a team of leaders for their multi level marketing company. Others may have only a few employees or contractors. You may be building a huge business that hires hundreds of employees, managers, and supervisors. Every one of these is examples of building a team. If you are a manager of huge department or a project manager for a few people, you are a leader and for the best successful outcome, must embrace your best inner leader.

Even if you are a solopreneur, you are a leader. How are you leading yourself? Are you engaging the supportive team that ensures your overall success? Are the people you contract or employ really on your team?

Find out where you may be blocking your inner leader today with this episode of #TappyBreak. Tap through the resistance, the sludge, the unconscious beliefs or patterns that are hiding your inner brilliance. This world needs you to UNLEASH YOUR INNER LEADER.


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You can still be part of the conversation on the event page. Post your questions, comments, ideas on the Event Page BEFORE, DURING, and AFTER the live show. It’s a really great way to connect to others in the community, receive answers and deepen relationships.

You can also watch LIVE from YouTube OR any time after the live show – each invitation includes the link to watch from YouTube. If you are watching from a mobile device, you need this link.

BONUS! Before the show and at the end of every show, look for the link to the Green Room in the event invite comment section to join me and other entrepreneurial tappers for a private, unrecorded, delicious discussion and grow your community and your self.

About #TappyBreak

Tap away the layers covering your brilliant soul and let it shine like a diamond!

#TappyBreak was created to addresses the challenges of being an entrepreneur, blast through the blocks that keep you from trusting your inner knowing and moving forward with grace and ease.

Every week Cheri leads you through a quick 15 minute tapping session addressing such issues as procrastination, writing blocks, overwhelm, control, speaking phobia, family loyalty, money blocks, and many other challenging areas that may be keeping you from having the success, happiness, or results that you desire.  You have a voice, a mission and a passion.  Don’t let unconscious and limiting stories keep you from sharing it fully and receiving all the abundance that comes with it.

By combining a light tapping on acupressure points while talking, you can move past the emotional and unconscious blocks that are creating your current results. When you tap on an issue often the underlying or unconscious triggers will surface so that you can acknowledge, express and release the charge or the power it has so that you can move into expansion and grow that huge vision you are holding for yourself and the world.


Qualities of Creative and Successful Leaders

Some people are natural born leaders. From their first steps, they have a confidence that attracts others to follow them. For others, it is not so apparent, yet it can be learned.  However, before you can lead others, you must first lead yourself. Leadership is internal.  Anything that we create in our business or life first begins within our thoughts, beliefs and feelings.

Success comes from the way you act. The way you act comes from the way you think and feel. Therefore, to become more successful, you must first change something within yourself. ~  Ritu Ghatourey

Like attracts like and we do teach people how to treat us.  How we treat ourselves is reflective of our internal belief about what we deserve. If you are not able to embrace self love, treat yourself with respect, kindness, and compassion you cannot extend that out to others.  You will treat others with the same disregard with which you treat yourself., and receive it back.  However, if you see you worth and value people will know by your actions and words.  You will also draw people into your circles, whether personal or business who match the vibrational quality of your inner beliefs, thoughts and feelings.

When you look in the mirrrobb-braun-quote5or, what do you see? How do you feel? Are you inspired by who looks back at you? Are you excited by your life, choices, actions and results? Do you greet the face in the mirror with a smile, a high five, and gratitude?

Do you see a person looking back at you who is confident, creative, open minded, intuitive, committed, inspired, has a positive attitude and integrity?

Based on an article for Forbes by Tanya Prive  these are the top qualities that make a great leader.

Let’s look at each one.

Confident.  When you are confident, you instill confidence in others.  It’s an intrinsic feeling that is fed from experience, and more importantly an unshakeable faith in yourself and what you are capable of achieving.  If you are not completely confident yet, you can choose to be. Remind yourself of who you are and what you are made of. Know in your every fiber of your being that you trust yourself and also trust that the universe supports your intentions.

Open Minded.  If you are stuck in believing there is only certain ways of doing things, or solving problems, you can hurt your overall venture.  Solutions,  ideas and opportunities may come from unexpected sources. Listen to feedback, communicate openly with your team members, and be willing to listen to other points of views.  Check in to see if you are open minded in your own life, and if not, set the intention to shift to a more open and expansive state.

Intuitive.  Like creativity, it comes from within and being open to receive guidance from a higher source.  It’s trusting your gut or those whispers of truths.  You can learn how your intuition speaks to you.  Everyone is intuitive, however not everyone cultivates their intuition. This is a very internal practice that can reap greater rewards than if you are always in your head.

Commited.  Commitment is an internal decision.  When you are aligned to your passion, your mission, your truth, and when you are connected to the why of your intentions and goals, the power of commitment is exponential.  If you are not committed, others can see and feel it and will match it.  If you want commitment teams, employees, partners, be committed yourself.

Inspired.  You know how great it is to be around someone who inspires you. You are probably who you are today because someone inspired something great in you.  Well, be that person yourself.  If you look in the mirror and don’t like who you see, and are uninspired by your own thoughts and actions, you won’t be able to create the excitement and buzz from your work-force, team members, customers and partners.  If you want inspired people around you, inspire them.

Positive Attitude.  You can choose to see the glass half full or half empty.  It’s up to you.  Remember how you see it, is how it will be.  Stress is reduced when you think positively.  Creativity, inspiration  and confidence are all fueled by positive attitudes.  The overall feeling of your environment is improved and lighter when your attitude is positive and hopeful.  Morale is greater and so is productivity when the attitude from the top down is positive.  You can always choose what attitude and perspective you will have.  It’s a conscious choose from within.

Integrity.  There is no way that you can treat other with honesty if you are not honest with yourself.  Being in integrity with your values, feelings, and choices will instill trust in others.   If you want the support of others, then lead by example and be someone who walks their talk.  There is such thing as karma, so treat yourself and others how you wish to be treated. Make decisions that support your values.

I have found that by beginning each day with a brief ritual of grounding, expressing gratitude and setting intentions that these qualities of leadership blossom within your heart, mind, spirit and body. If you’d like free meditations to support you in creating your own practice, click here to get started right away.

Enlightened leadership is spiritual if we understand spirituality not as some kind of religious dogma or ideology but as the domain of awareness where we experience values like truth, goodness, beauty, love and compassion, and also intuition, creativity, insight and focused attention. ~ Deepak Chopra

If you feel challenged as an entrepreneur and leader, you can shift the inner blocks or limitations that are keeping you from shining your inner brilliance and creating the results you want with these free tapping videos.



Why Is So Hard to Ask for Help?

Hard to Ask For HelpWhen I first started my entrepreneurial adventure, I was so reluctant to hire anyone to help me.  I thought I should be able to figure it all out myself.  After all, I did pretty well for most of my life until that point figuring things out.  I finally reached a point where I just knew if I wanted to move forward, I had to bite the bullet and hire some people to do the jobs where their brilliance and expertise shone, so I could focus on my own area of excellence. It wasn’t easy. I felt like something was wrong with me that I had to pay other people to help me do my job.

Then I realized it wasn’t a job.  It was my life, my gift, and my passion to reach the audience who needed my services and do what I do best – hold space, help people see their own inner strength and wisdom, make choices to move forward with their dreams, and remove the blocks that keep them from living to their fullest potential.  I was so busy doing everything else, that the most important piece was being neglected.

I have been fortunate all of my life to always have support systems in place with friends and family when it came to my children. It was invaluable as a young mother and as a single mother.  Yet, I always felt guilty and ashamed that I needed help.

When it comes to other areas, I can be quite stubborn in asking for help or I ask but it does not align with my timeline, so I would go ahead and do it myself – and usually pay for it in some way.
Of course there were the many times when I would just “do it myself so it would get done right,” filled with attitude and resentment.  Yuck!

There are also the times where I just expect that people should know what I need or want. Then fill with righteous indignation that  they cannot read my mind or see what is obvious to me.

Can you relate to any of these scenarios?  It seems like it is a big red flag of incompetence if we need help!  What is up with that?!
There has to be a happy balance.

There is!  Some of it is has to do with the beliefs we have around asking for help.  The culture and environment in which we were raised also contributes to how we feel about it.

Contrary to popular belief, we are not meant to do it alone.  However, one thing I have discovered consistently in working with my clients is the inherent belief that you cannot count on anyone.  You have learned to protect yourself by not trusting that you can have the support you need because at a critical point in your life, you did not receive the love and support that you needed.  So either you do hire people or ask for help but are continuously disappointed by the results or avoid it altogether because of the unconscious expectation that you have around not being supported.

Where are you being blocked in a way that is keeping you from asking for or hiring the help that will allow you to accomplish your goals, see your intentions come to light, and enjoy the vision of success you have?

Join me for another to discover what is holding you back, keeping you stoic, and not letting you take the important steps to gather the support team that will help you manifest your dreams and desires?

The Power of Choice

change we seek in usI wrote the following on my personal Facebook page on Dec. 7, 2014.   I was humbled to tears by the generous and loving responses people shared with me both privately and publicly.  I want to share it with you for inspiration and hope.  We all have dreams.  We all have visions.  We all have challenges. We can’t allow the challenges to thwart our visions. We may have to rest, reevaluate and tune in for guidance.  The path may be different than what we imagined and yet if we are connected to our intention and open to the “how” of them, success, happiness, love, gratitude, and triumph are always there.

I share this today to remind myself and you that today is a new day, a new opportunity to reconnect to your intentions and take one step in bringing them to life.  It’s a new opportunity to choose in favor of you! We all have choices each in every moment. We can choose to complain and see what’s wrong or we can choose to be grateful and see what’s right.  We can choose to give up or choose to keep going.  Every moment is  a choice.

We are almost halfway into January and many resolutions have already been forgotten.  It’s ok.  Sit quietly. Breathe deeply.  Listen for the truth of what you really commit to today.  Change takes place one step at at time,  one choice at a time, one day at a time. What is really important to you?  Why is it important?  When you know the “what” and the “why” it is so much easier to commit and resolve to “be” in the spirit of those things and consistently  make the choice to take the inspired action to have your visions be real.


I have spent most of my life (like so many) beating myself up, steeped in overwhelming regret, comfortable in a critical and judgmental voice. Seeing my worth and value intrinsically was almost transparent. I played a good game if you were an outsider looking in, yet those most close to me knew the truth and some even fed that part of myself. The worst part of that is what I modeled to my children in their most impressionable ages.

It has been a struggle and a challenge moving past those days especially when you add in debilitating, disabling Lyme Disease and Fibromyalgia. Add to that depression, chronic pain a mind not working (all thanks to LD and F) and divorce. Many years have passed (thankfully) since the worst of those days. I am so grateful to the intention, commitment and decisions I have made to move far beyond that and create a far more healthy and positive life.

Yet, here’s a truth I do not often share. It’s still not easy. There is a not a day that I am not feeling pain somewhere in my body. Every day is an act of sheer determination and will to get out of bed and move. There are so many days when 12 hours of sleep is still not enough for me to feel like I am human. My doctors and support team throughout the years have repeatedly admired me and I never understood why. They would tell me that most of their patients gave up, came in regularly for meds, and spent their days sitting or lying in front of the TV, giving up on any other life. I could not understand or appreciate their admiration. You see for me, there was never any other choice but to LIVE FULLY.

I have a learned that I am empathic, intuitive and expend so much energy just being around people and loving people the way I do and have learned to manage that. Thankfully I have begun a grounding, centering, and meditation practice which helps.

I am more reflective today because my husband, Burt has finalized a song he has been working on for MS. Although I do not have MS, I recognize and resonate with so many of the symptoms, which have sprung to life in my awareness through Burt’s renditions of the song.

So, I actually made a huge positive shift internally in choosing to see myself more positively. It would be so easy to live a different life. I could easily decide to close the doors to my healing and coaching business. I could say no to so many people whom I love when they need support. I could skip the games and sleepovers of all the kids whom I love dearly. There are so many things I could skip and miss out on. I could also continue to criticize myself for not doing more, not being better, etc.

Yet I choose not to. I choose to sleep more than I want, so I can do all these things. I choose to walk outdoors, practice yoga, swim, and hire a personal trainer even though I cannot always keep up with the schedule I set for myself. I choose to cook, shop, attend conferences, grow my business and do what I can, even if I move more slowly or not at all sometimes. That’s ok. Because the truth is, I am going to be a whole worse off if I give in to the recliner and couch permanently and stop.

So to those of you who are suffering in any capacity, you can move out of it. You don’t have to settle for where you are. You can choose to create something else – something better.

We all have choices. What do you choose? I choose to live, to love and to be present in my life. I choose to move (even when its tough and it hurts.) I choose to honor my limitations (even though it still annoys me at times.) I choose to accept and love who I am while I continue to grow, expand and heal. I choose to be here and show up. I hope you do too!

It is all a choice.  I wouldn’t be here today without choosing to be and surround myself with like minded, like hearted together we can do so muchpeople who supported me in my vision to wholeness, to health, and continuing on my entrepreneurial adventure – and an adventure it has been! So if you would like to be in the company of women who choose to live, to show up fully, to commit to their dreams and be supported on your adventure whether it be building a business, starting a new venture or just living life fully, please join me and an intimate group for a Business and Leadership Self Mastery journey to success.

How To Get Real With Your Resolutions

on new years resolutionsIt’s that time of the year again when everyone has made a list of resolutions. We are one week into this new year – and here’s the million dollar question – how are your resolutions working out? Have you already failed? Do you feel like a loser because you didn’t make it a week –  or worse – you didn’t even get started?

Not to worry folks! You are not a failure or a loser. You are human. The conditioning, patterns, beliefs that have been with you for a lifetime don’t just fall away because you will them to do so. It’s all well and good to resolve to do better this year, but the truth is, that it’s really just another day.

So why do you put all this pressure on yourself to magically transform yourself overnight? It takes repeated steps to create a new pattern or habit and that takes time, consistency and repetition.

And truth be told, most often you aren’t really aligned with your resolutions. Deep down, you don’t really want to make these changes. Or you don’t believe that you can. There are so many underlying and unconscious reasons that you may sabotage your efforts or not line up with really making these changes. You don’t want to hear this, yet it’s true.

So join me for this episode of #TappyBreak. Let’s bust the barriers to your resolutions or get real with whether you even want to succeed at these. Perhaps you will get more realistic and truthful about what you really want to commit to changing this year.


Out With The Old and In With the New

2014 byeWhat a pleasure having you in my community! I look forward to sharing resources, stories, inspiration and success stories with you for another year. Knowing that you are out there and reading these blog posts excites and inspires me to write them, so thank you for that gift.

I am really excited about 2015! Are you? As I reflect on this past year, there are many joys, firsts and successes to celebrate. There are also things I am ready to leave behind and things I wish to create and embrace in this New Year ahead.

Personally, I finally cleared Lyme disease after 18 years. My stepdaughter had a little girl, Juliana Marianne. My oldest child and daughter also had a baby, Hattie Patricia, so I was in baby heaven!Although I have been a step grandmother for 14 years, it was exciting to welcome a new generation to my bloodline.

My husband and I spent a month in St. Augustine, Florida and began a daily practice of writing pages inspired by Julia Cameron’s, “The Artist’s Way, A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity.” I was surprised at how positively it has affected my life and my business.  Some days I find inspired words flow onto the page.  Other days I work through inner struggles.  I find questions to answers.  Ultimately I am finding it much easier to write in general.

I became more aware of the autoimmune effects that fibromyalgia has had on my life, and began to pay more attention and take better care of myself, adding swimming to my exercise routine and hiring a personal trainer.

Professionally, I took a big leap of faith, moving from the collaborative office of a naturopath into my own office. I got very clear on my message and audience and made some changes to my branding, website and offerings. Intuition became a natural voice and guide in business and personal decisions. I started offering a year long mentoring and mastermind program and love the results my clients and I are having!

Here’s what I am leaving behind. Lack of consistency and discipline in personal and professional practices, drinking too much alcohol daily, Tappy Hour, dairy, soy and transfat – thought I could never give up cream in my coffee, and I did! I am also going to give the Paleo Diet a sincere effort so leaving grains behind too. My intention is to feel great – have more energy, less pain, and more mobility.  I will keep you posted on how this is helping with autoimmune disease for me.

What about you? I’d love to hear what you loved about this past year and what you released.

So for 2015 here is what I intend to create. Even more inner peace, consistency and discipline for a list of things I have intentioned for myself. I will enjoy physical and mental energy, less physical pain, and an even more profitable business that meets the financial goals I have set.

I am excited to begin the second group of Enlightened Business/Empowered Life in late January, and third group in June. I am open to possibilities for my business that I haven’t even imagined yet.

I have some great workshops in the works that I am offering  both alone and collaboratively.

I am excited to continue to create free #TappyBreak videos  every week. These are quick 15 minute videos provide grounding, getting present, and tapping to relieve stress, anxiety, fears, doubts, memories, experiences, old stories and limiting beliefs that hold you back in your life and business. You can follow along with my script, or use your own words and tap any time you need some relief or to change things up. I hope you enjoy them. Anytime you need a boost, visit my YouTube channel for the complete library of TappyBreak Videos.

I will continue to be with my lovely grand daughter 2 days a week so her mum, my daughter can teach yoga classes and continue to run her holistic nutrition business. I am so grateful that my life and my business afford me this opportunity.

My husband and I are looking at how we can spend more time in St Augustine, FL.  Fortunately my work can be done from anywhere with a phone and Google hangouts. Being in St. Augustine allows us to spend time with our other daughter and granddaughter.

An exciting and expansive year awaits!

Your turn! What are YOU creating in 2015?


How to Manage and Reduce Stress

intentions and stress shortIt was  Christmas when I created  this episode of #TappyBreak.  However not everyone celebrates this holiday and not everyone that does enjoys it.

There is so much stress associated with Christmas on top of the stress that so many people live with every day.

Another source of stress for almost everyone is all the new year resolutions that we make.  Making them does not cause the stress so much as keeping them.  So, I invite you to set intentions for the new year and let those intentions guide your actions and goal setting.  Let go of the resolutions and be realistic with what you want to create for yourself.  You have enough stress in your life without adding overwhelming expectations.

Stress is unhealthy on so many levels.  Tapping is one way to manage and erase the effects that stress has on your body, mind, and energy which is why I create the weekly tapping videos for you – #TappyBreak.

Breathing, grounding, movement that you enjoy, listening to music also can help.  One thing that has helped me the most (when combined with breathing, grounding and tapping) is the the present of presence.

When we are consciously being present in the moment with – what you are doing – who you are with – where you are – there is no room for stress.  If you would like free guided meditations to support you in grounding and becoming present, click here.

So today my gift to you to begin this new year, this new day with a tapping sequence that you can use everyday to help manage or reduce stress and to learn to be present in each moment.

How To Love Your Numbers

???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????It is surprising to me how many solo entrepreneurs put blinders on when it comes to their financial reports. Cash flow projections, income statements, ROI tell the story of your profit or loss, and provide necessary information to help you manage cash flow, implement marketing strategies, and make investment decisions.

If your eyes just glazed over, or your mind went into overwhelm, then today’s #TappyBreak is a must for you.

“One of the pillars of entrepreneurial success is: know your numbers.” ~ Ande Lyons

Get rid of your money shame, fear and ignorance. If you want to be in the black, you’ve got to know your numbers! It is actually rather empowering to know them. You can make informed decisions, set realistic goals, and have a more defined sense of purpose and priority with your schedule.

When you show your numbers some love, respect and attention you will watch your bottom line rise. It’s like any relationship, the more you cultivate it, the better it gets.

I will admit, I wasn’t very attentive to my numbers the first few years in business. Then I hired a bookkeeper. Even though I took this very necessary step, I did not embrace the opportunity as fully as I could have. Every month she would send me my reports and I would ignore them – not very loving at all.

On the months when she would meet with me to go over the reports, business improved. So now I have a monthly date with my reports.

My weekly date is with my cash flow projections spreadsheet. I get pretty motivated to pick up the phone when I know that my numbers for that month aren’t up to snuff.

Jessica Vienneau of Above The Barr is my rocking bookkeeper.

Ande Lyons of Possibility Partners created a customized 12 month cash flow statement for my business and will help you out too.

If you are still here reading, there’s hope for you. So join me for this episode of #TappyBreak to tap through the barriers you have to knowing, embracing and loving your numbers.