Tappy Break – Episode 38 – Gift of Presence

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Are you always rushing from one thing to the next, or while you are doing one thing thinking of all the other things you are not doing?

Do you often feel distracted and not able to ground and be present with the people, projects or situations in front of you? Are you often distracted and not giving  your full attention?

 

Years ago, that was me!  No matter what I was doing, I was somewhere else in my mind.  I missed many moments with my children.  I only half listened to what they were saying and always rushing them so we could get to the next thing.  Oh how I would love those moments back.

Instead I learned from them.  I set an intention years ago, to be present in all I do.  It took some major conscious attention as wells as lots of chakra clearing, energy healing, and tapping. Thankfully when you set an intention, the means for it to happen become more visible to you.

When I found my mind or attention wandering, I would simply say to myself, “Be here now.”  The truth is where else could I be?

Recently I was in a situation that I would not have been able to handle a year ago.  Fortunately, forgiveness – another #TappyBreak episode, grounding, surrounding myself with light, and setting an intention of being present made the difference.

Being present means giving your full attention without attachment to an outcome or reactions or desires.  It is just being.  You are.  It is so freeing and such an amazing feeling when you can be there.

Learning to be truly present has changed all my relationships in a positive way.  I am more productive in all that I do. I enjoy so much more of my life and my work.

Thankfully I have helped hundreds of others to reach this state too.

So today.  Set the intention to become present in all that you do. Let’s get it started or take it to another level with #TappyBreak!  Embrace the Art of Presence. If you would like further support then #tappybreak video, click here and we can talk.  I have lots of options to share with you.

Do You Honor What Is Important To You?

Are you clear on what’s important to you?  Do you take time to honor and give attention to those things? If not, what’s stopping you? How would your life be better if you did? 

It has been a challenging month for me.  It has also been an opportunity for growth and applying all that I teach.  Each of us has different levels of priorities and what’s  important to us.  I am clear on what is important to me and everyday I live by those choices.

Sometimes, however, you don’t even know how important things are until you are in the experience. That happened to me recently.

I was not prepared for how much I would experience such unconditional love for my father and how fiercely protective and adamant I would become at being his advocate since he could not longer do it himself.

In my adult years, to say that my  relationship with my father was challenging is an understatement.  Suffice it to say that I have spent years reaching a space of peace, love and acceptance for him and his choices as well as mine.  Forgiveness was a huge piece of that.  Forgiveness towards him and towards myself.  

My father who has had several mini-strokes and dementia was taken to the hospital after falling several times at home. He was then sent to a short term care facility for intensive physical therapy so he could go home.  I made arrangements to travel to Florida from New Hampshire, where I live, to visit him while he was there and to evaluate his progress. Instead of the three days I planned to stay, I spent ten days on an emotional rollercoaster as I learned about dementia, how far it had progressed in my father, and finding a nursing home that would take him.  This was challenging on many levels because his wife wanted to take him home against medical advice. 

I am amazed at how much faith I had in receiving support from the universe and trusting that my father’s highest good would be served.  I learned a deeper lesson in the power of surrender, letting go and stop fighting so hard for my will, and let the highest good be served by a higher power.

I will be sharing these lessons and blessings from these experiences with you in the coming posts in deeper detail.  I am so grateful that I have a business that allows me to have the freedom and the flexibility to live my purpose and show up fully for the people and experiences that are important to me and to share all that I learn.

Since the whole experience would have been entirely different without forgiveness, I created a tapping video on forgiveness.  If you are ready to begin or advance your forgiveness journey, click here for that post and video. 

Would you like some support in making the shifts so that you can easily identify and honor the things that are important to you or in working through forgiveness, click here and let’s have a conversation. 

Forgiveness Is A Gift You Give Yourself

In looking for inspiration for TappyBreak this week, I turned to my daily pages. On two days, I spoke of forgiveness – my own personal story written in third person.  I share some of those entries with with you today.

Monday, June 8. Once she forgave them for her brother’s pain, she had to forgive herself – this took much longer and was more difficult for she saw how she also contributed and had failed him.

Forgiveness is your gift to yourself.

Monday, June 15. Forgiveness – your gift. We forgive to free ourselves. It’s not easy, can take years, many levels, many layers, often entangled with so many other emotions, even guilt and shame.

She didn’t realize she needed to forgive her father until she was in her thirties.  Before that she loved him dearly. It was actually in her forties that the deeper work of forgiveness began and the deepest of all in her first two years of her fifties.  So many emotions, so much guilt and shame, letting go, facing her darkest truths, accepting her role, allowing her feelings to rise up and move through her.

Tapping, so much tapping. Many energy healings, soul retrievals and soul letters written.  Physical pain claiming its space so deep and so strong, until finally, she was done.

Done with anger, disappointment, blame, self-loathing, guilt and wishing things were different – that he was different. Finally she could just accept him, her own feelings, their differences and just love him. Let him live his choices and let herself live hers, with peace.  Distance helped.

 

Is there someone in your life who has hurt you? Is it time for you to let go of the hurt and what it is doing to you?

This week, I invite you to tap into a space in your heart where there is someone you could forgive.  Almost everyone has been hurt by the words or actions of someone else whether in the past or currently. It can leave you feeling heavy, a victim, shamed or even guilty.  We often persecute ourselves over and over again when someone has wronged us by reliving it in our thoughts, telling others about it, holding onto the hurt and pain. So the secret to your own personal freedom is forgiveness.

You want to forgive them, not to let them off the hook, but to give yourself peace.  Forgiveness is your gift to yourself.
Forgiveness does not excuse what the other party did, it frees you from feeling anger, resentment, disappointment, sadness and hurt.  Forgiveness offers you health, happiness and inner peace.

Please tap along with this video and contribute to the collective energy of freeing yourself and others from what needs forgiveness. Share your stories, your experience with forgiveness on the event page before, during and after the live HOA (hangout on air.)

Remember, the benefits that you will receive are from tapping along with the video, not just watching it. Please take responsibility for yourself.  Forgiveness work can be challenging.  It is also very freeing.  If you would like support in completely reaching a state of neutrality and love by forgiving someone in your life, please click here for a conversation with me. 

In addition to tapping, energy healing, journaling, soul letters, and other healing modalities, I practice ho’oponopono often when I have wanted to forgive myself or someone else.  Click here for that post, what it is and how to do it.

One book that helped me with forgiveness was “Get Unstuck” by John Seeley. It included a template for a soul letter.  I have written several and so have many of clients.  They have all thanked me for suggesting writing them since it freed them on so many levels. They watch their lives expand when they were able to forgive and  let go.  We often combined these letters with energy healing and tapping.   When they were able to forgive, it became so much easier to focus on what was important to them from love and give themselves permission to say yes to that.

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Comparison Of Different Intuitive Types

intuition dominanceIntuition is defined as having the ability to understand or know something immediately without conscious reasoning, or an instinctive knowing, to know something without knowing why you know it. It may seem so obvious and natural. It can often seem irrational and illogical.

When you increase your awareness of the potentiality of intuition, you tap into an inner wisdom and begin to create from Source. You become more aware and tuned into the depth of the spiritual resources that lie within you, and that connect you to infinite intelligence.

Everyone has intuitive gifts. You receive, perceive, absorb and interpret the non-physical world around you – the world of energy. This happens without your conscious awareness. Yet, you can learn to tune into this information through intuition. This requires a merging of your energy field with the energy that surrounds you, integrating the information with your physical senses.

Knowing your dominant intuitive type allows you to develop your intuitive ability and progress more quickly by flowing with the current and having a better understanding of yourself and your experiences. You can learn to discern what is yours and what is not and make choices based on this information. You can then develop your other styles of intuition for full guidance.

Although you begin by being aligned and feeling more natural with one style of intuition, as you grow and begin to use and trust your intuition, your usual preference will evolve and blossom into a full range of receptivity. You will be lead to who you really are at your soul level authentically and genuinely.

Here is a quick and basic breakdown of the 4 styles of psychic intuition.

If you are emotionally intuitively based, emotions will lead you. The emotional intuitive travels the path of the heart and unconditional love, tuned into intuition through the heart chakra.

  1. Feels energy as emotions
  2. Natural empathy
  3. Emotional clairvoyance – Receive spontaneous image or impression that is emotionally charged
  1. Emotionally telepathic – Receive powerful emotions that come from seemingly nowhere

If you are mentally intuitively based, you will respond to the world through thinking. The mental intuitive is driven by an innate desire to understand and to know. They thirst for knowledge, to learn and to expand their minds, tuned in through the sixth chakra.

  1. Use your mind to understand spirit
  2. Knows, thinks, and sees patterns
  3. Mental Telepathy and Clairvoyance – Ability to see or intuit an actual image object or event

If you are physically intuitive, or kinesthetic, you will relate to energy with your bodies, soaking up the energy this way through your lower three chakras and physically experiencing the information in your body.

  1. Receive energy through bodily impressions
  2. Receive information through psychometry – Ability to hold an object or view a photograph to receive information, impressions, or physical sensations about the object or its owners
  3. See the divine in all living things
  4. Connection with the natural world
    1. Earth and earth elements
    2. Animals
    3. Stones and plants

If you are spiritually intuitively based, you are inclined to recognize energy through essence and sensation. The journey of the spiritual intuitive is to that of enlightened freedom, tuning in through the crown chakra.

  1. Receive messages from non-physical beings
  2. Sense the presence of non-physical beings
  3. See images of non-physical beings
  4. Have visions of or from non-physical beings
    1. Spirits
    2. Ghosts
    3. Guides
    4. Angels
    5. Loved ones who have passed into spirit

In this blog post, I describe each intuitive type in more detail. 

If you would like to learn even more about your dominant and natural intuitive styles, deepen your understanding, and gain valuable experience in using and trusting your intuition, click here.

Episode 36 #TappyBreak Failure is An Opportunity for Reinvention

failure is opportunityFailure is such a dirty word and one that leaves many feeling defeated, disappointed and ruined, whether a personal or professional failure – the results can be devastating, especially when you fail to bounce back or allow the fear of another failure keep you down.

How you feel about failure is going to make a big difference. You can choose to see it from different perspectives. I know I have spent too many years beating myself up, asking myself “what if,” feeling shame, regret, remorse and unworthy. I know I am not alone here.

Then I began to look at my perceived failures differently. I began to look at the lessons I learned. I started to ask myself the following questions:

  1. What could I have done differently?
  2. What kept me from making different choices at the time?
  3. What did I do well?
  4. At the time, did I believe I was doing all that I could?
  5. At the time was I making choices that supported me at the time?
  6. Knowing now what I did not know then, and choosing to move forward, what can I do?

I answered them honestly. It wasn’t easy, but I started to realize how much I was devaluing my choices, my needs, and the place where I was at the time of the perceived failures. If I continued to do that, chances were strong that I would continue down that path, and only see the failures, and perpetuate more of them.

So, I decided to free myself, to create a new vision and a new version of me. Many people have used failure as an opportunity to reinvent themselves. Conan O’Brien is a great example of this, and even spoke about it at the commencement address he gave to graduating class at Dartmouth in 2011.

I decided to forgive myself for my perceived failures. I also tapped. I tapped a lot. I tapped on all my feelings around the disappointment, the shame, the blame, and the resentment. I tapped on anything and everything that I thought or felt about each failure. I tapped until I felt free and ready to move on with a renewed sense of clarity. I continue to tap.

I recommend that you take some time to answer the questions above as honestly as you can. This will give you some specific material for tapping. If blame and judgment is there, let it be okay and tap until you no longer feel triggered by it. Ideally you want to reach a place where you can look at the situation with neutrality.

In today’s #Tappy Break, I am going to tap with you so you can free yourself from seeing things as failures and instead as lessons, opportunities and freedom.

Let’s tap into the new re-invented you!

#TappyBreak – So Many Choices How Do I Know What’s Right?

Join me for Episode 35 for Tappy Break! So Many Choices How Do I Know What’s Right?

What is #TappyBreak?  It’s an opportunity for you to take a break in your day and tap on the subliminal, unconscious and conscious emotions, people, things, and issues that cause you stress and block your creativity, moving forward, and living your truth!  Every week, there is a new topic.

If you want to learn more about tapping (EFT) which is what we do in #TappyBreak,  grab your free downloadable guide and video at: http://ow.ly/K3mH4

This week we will explore how to feel confident when you are facing many choices and decisions.  We will tap on the thoughts that run around your head and the stress that gets trapped in your body. After this episode, you will be able to easily choice in favor of your highest good!

Want more #TappyBreak?  all the episode are found at: http://ow.ly/EssFV

#HappyTapping!

Connecting With Your Intuition

leaves in bloomI  was very reflective and deep in love yesterday morning with life, with the weather, with the moment and with myself.  I wish to share it with you.  

I listened to a meditation on faith, something I can let waiver when it comes to my work. Rather than staying in the flowing dance of faith, I dip low into doubt. Does this happen to you?

I would love for faith to be with me always and I am choosing that now. Faith looks like the angel who often appears to me when working with my clients. It is the color of red poppies. If feels fluid, tingling and light in my body. It sounds like the chirping of morning birds singing their greeting. It smells like the sweet salty ocean air – to me, any way.  I invite you to describe it for yourself.

I sat on my porch steeped in nature, listening to the meditation and just breathing in the beauty of the blossoming trees and plants that bless me daily. Then I moved to the patio to write my almost daily pages, being kissed by the rising sun, receiving its warmth and love, receiving grace from the morning air, receiving hope from the budding green leaves and plants emerging from the dark and cold of winter, reminding me of the circle of life, the ebb and flow and to trust, to have faith in my dreams, my passions, my self and the immeasurable divine support that guides me daily.  

My life is a blessing.  Each breath is a gift.  Each moment to be treasured, lived and enjoyed. 

Tuesday, I was immersed in the joy and love of my sweet granddaughter, Hattie.  She is my little girl friend!  We laugh, bounce, sing, dance, walk, play and enjoy each other all day.  Nothing else is more important when I am with her, except to be totally present in the pure bliss and blessing of that sweet child. 

What a gift that I can choose to spend 2 days with her most weeks, and also support my daughter so she can live her passion. Yet often my thought gremlins show up, pressuring me, yakking at me that I have so much work to do that I haven’t completed or started.  I have to remind them that I clearly and lovingly made a choice to live my life fully, enjoy all that I’ve created, envisioned and prayed to experience – connection, loving relationships, mutual support with my husband, my family, close friends, and my spirit as well as in my business community, and to be present in each moment with love. 

It is so easy for me to get so caught up in all my ideas and all the things I want to create and do to the exclusion of all else. Yet, I know that would stifle my soul not fuel it. My journey is to balance, harmony and allowing my own version of success from within my heart and soul, from my own design. I am still letting go of what I believed it should be.  It’s different for everyone.  We are all unique.  Are you clear on what success is for you? I would love to help you clarify that for yourself. 

Yesterday when speaking to a client who has become a great friend, and one of my goddess collaborators, Andrea Hood, I clearly understood that I am an experiential learner – that’s how I grow and know. My own struggles with defining my own success from what was fueled by fear and a need to prove versus love, presence and choice have prepared me and continues to guide me so I can be that light and guiding force for others to get real with themselves, with what fuels their passions, desires, choices and vision of success. 

Each day, I challenge the old judgmental voice of conditioning with the loving voice of the present. As I clear and balance my chakras, tap away the critical voices, doubt, beliefs, habits and old patterns, run healing energy, center and surround myself with positive energy and environments, flow and dance with Mother Earth and Father Sky, tune into the elements, breath in the unconditional love that the earth and universe offers to all of us, allow myself to enjoy all that I have and all that I am, then I become more in union with my spirit and my intuition and success.

I am as solid as a tree trunk with its roots connecting me deep to the earth and my love reaches out like the branches in full summer bloom reaching for the sky and all life, inviting those who want to tune into their own inner wisdom and evolution under the safety of these leaves. My love is here. My love is everywhere. We are all one. We are all love. 

Is it time for you to feel this way, too?  On June 3, 2015  Develop Your Intuition Skills is a virtual live experiential opportunity for you to begin. 

Watch this video to learn about the 4 styles of intuition, learn how to turn into your “yes” or “no”, and to begin becoming aware of your intuition and how it speaks to you.  

#TappyBreak – I Can’t Handle Rejection

I Can't Handle RejectionToday we explore the energy of rejection.  What is rejection?  How does it feel?  How does it affect you?

No one likes rejections yet some are better at handling it than others.  For many, the thought of being rejected stops them in their tracks, allowing them to go only so far, or never even get started.  Rejection is a killer of dreams, a crusher of hope.

What lies under the layers of rejection?  Where did it begin for you?  When did you feel rejected in such a way that you made a vow to never put yourself in a position to be rejected again?  .

Where do you feel rejection in your body?  What happens when there is something you want to do, but don’t do it?

Everyone has experienced rejection at some point or another in their life.  It’s painful.  It hurts.  Yet, I have found that it hurts more when you are attached to an outcome or when you take things personally.

What if rejection is just not a match?  Don’t you want to be aligned with people and experiences that are a match?

So in this episode let’s release the old, hidden emotions and experience of rejection so that you can be free to create, sell, attract, and move forward with confidence.

The Fish Is On the Line But Not In the Boat

fish on a lineMy husband and I were walking the other day discussing an opportunity for him and he said, “Well the fish is on the line, but it’s not in the boat yet.” I loved this expression, and we discussed what this meant in different contexts. 

These are all examples of having a fish on the line but not in the boat and I am sure you can identify your own. 

Your book is written and you have an interested publisher, but no contract yet.

You have several people interested in your workshop, but no signups yet.

Your song is written and a record label wants to represent you, but no deal has been reached.

You have an idea for an article but don’t know where to begin 

You made the commitment to practice yoga, but have not decided when or where, so haven’t started yet.

So what are you feeling with the potential opportunity? Are you open, positive, hopeful or are you thinking of every reason why it won’t work out? You are probably somewhere in between or on both sides.

That’s where today’s #TappyBreak comes in. We will tap on all the negative thoughts you are having and trying to ignore – give them a real voice, because the truth is whether you acknowledge them or not, they are there and they are real. So, let’s hear what they have to say, release the charge they have on you, and expand the space for the positive. Then we will fill it in with possibility, belief, and resilience.

How Does Procrastination Serve You?

procrastination servesWell that’s a ridiculous question you may be saying! I hate procrastinating! I want to stop, but I just cannot seem to stop! No matter what it is, I put it off for as long as possible, sometimes, never finishing it! IT DOESN’T SERVE ME. IT FRUSTRATES ME.

I understand that. Truly I do. Yet, for just a moment, stop judging yourself for procrastinating. Instead, open your mind and your heart and go within for some honest answers.

You see, there is a reason that you procrastinate and if you get to the root of why, then you can address that issue and find freedom. No one wants to sabotage his or her success knowingly.

However, subconsciously there may be a fear, or rebellion or resentment underneath the very thing you are resisting doing. So if you can identify what that reason is, then you can tap on the specific feelings with love, compassion and acceptance. This is what will free you from procrastination, not judging or criticizing yourself.

Think of the thing that you are procrastinating on now. Name it. What are you not starting or finishing?

Remember, no judgments, only compassion and honesty.

  1. What is the downside to beginning or finishing this project or task?
  2. What are you afraid will happen if you do finish it?
  3. What is the advantage to not completing it?

Once you answer these questions, we have some substance and a path to tapping.

So today, rather than tapping generally around procrastination, we are going to attack it head-on – the reason you really procrastinate – so that you can stop.

Join me for this episode of #TappyBreak to break free from procrastination.

4 Styles of Intuition Communication

Intuition John NaisbittIntuition is a powerful voice, yet often we are expecting it to be loud, obvious and bold and once you are truly tuned in to your own unique intuitive language, it may seem that way.

Yet when your intuition speaks to you, its often very subtle. Often you are not aware of its presence and guidance and the amazing support it offers you. Most people can relate to a gut feeling and will often comment on things after the fact. They say things like, “I know that was a mistake,” or “If I had only listened to my gut, I would have avoided this.” Conversely you may say things like “I have no idea why I canceled my flight, “ and then find out there were problems with it, and its a good thing I did cancel.”

There are many ways that your intuition communicates with you. The four styles of intuition communication are emotional, mental, physical and spiritual. In this post I will explain briefly each one. In posts to follow in this series, I will delve more deeply into each one.

PHYSICAL INTUITION

What does it actually mean or what is happening when you feel in your gut? Have you ever really tuned in, paid attention, and let it guide you? Your gut is related to your third chakra, power center, and where many people do connect with intuition.

Those who are physical intuitives will feel that. They tend to experience things through their body, through touch, and through nature. Physical intuitives will also feel other’s pain and discomfort physically They connect more easily to the life force in all living things, including plants, rocks, and animals.

As a healer, during sessions with my clients, whether tapping or doing energy healing through the chakras, my body often communicates with me to guide the sessions.

Here is an example. I was using EFT (tapping) with one of my clients. At some point, I felt my whole body relax and my back open up. When we stopped to check in, I asked her what let go? She smiled broadly and said, “As we were tapping I saw myself playing tennis…” Later in the session, my whole neck got very tense, so I asked my client what was wrong, when we paused tapping. She told me she remembered something that was upsetting, so we were able to address that issue. That is just one expression for physical intuitives.

If I had not been aware of this communication, I would have thought that stiff neck was my pain, rather than communication and guidance to help me work with my client for her highest good.

We will be exploring as well as practicing the full depth of physical intuition as well as the other intuitive styles during Develop Your Intuition Skills.

EMOTIONAL INTUITION

Emotional intuitives take on the emotions of others. I was speaking with a friend the other day and he told me he was not intuitive. The he shared this experience with me. He had read a post by someone whose posts he ready daily. One morning, nothing was different in her words, yet he felt that something was off. So he reached out and asked her if everything was ok. She was so surprised that he asked because it was not. That was his emotional intuition at work.

Many of my clients are emotional intuitives and it is my dominant style as well. Emotional intuitives work through their heart chakra. An emotional intuitive is like a large satellite that absorbs feelings wherever they go, and can be unsettling especially in large crowds. You may often feel like you are on an emotional rollercoaster ride and have no idea why. . It can be overwhelming being an emotional intuitive until you understand it and protect yourself. You will learn how to do that in during Develop Your Intuition Skills.

MENTAL INTUITION

Mental intuitives like systems and understanding. They thirst for knowledge, continual learning and expanding their minds. They usually love working with numbers and symbols. They receive messages and ideas telepathically from others.

Mental intuitives work from their third eye, or sixth chakra. Then tend see things clairvoyantly. They often know thing yet not sure how or why they know. You can learn more about developing your mental intuitive capacity to your best advantage in Develop Your Intuition Skills.

SPIRITUAL INTUITION

Finally the spiritual intuitive is usually the least grounded and merely tolerates being in the earthly realm since they crave freedom and openness. They have memories of perfection and have rich dream lives. Spiritual intuitives are able to live in the present more than any other intuitive type, but struggle with organization and time management. They work with angels and guides for their intuitive communication, guidance and strength.

Spiritual intuitives are more likely to see spirits or ghosts as well as communicate with them. They are tuned in through their crown chakra, and encourage us to explore our own spiritual knowing.

During Develop Your Intuition Skills, we will explore the full capacity of being a spiritual intuitive.

Intuition StylesAlthough everyone is able to access his or her intuition in all these styles, everyone has a dominant one. You can learn to tune into and strengthen your dominant intuitive language as well as cultivate all of them.

When you listen to the guidance of your intuition, you become more grounded, confident and peaceful. Life becomes more flow and ease. Your business flourishes when you integrate intuition with logic and strategy. You feel happier and less stressed. For many, you stop feeling overwhelmed; anxious or thinking you are crazy.

It’s time for us to awaken our intuition. Many have shut it down because it wasn’t safe, comfortable or encouraged as children. You may have been berated for seeing people no one else could or knowing things that you possibly could not know. You may have received negative feedback when expressing your intuition, and of course you didn’t know that’s what you were doing. You were just doing what was natural for you. But since you were not encouraged and in most case were discouraged, you felt alone, did not fit in and slowly shut down this part of yourself.

It is time to awaken and remember what you already know for your own highest good and that of the world.

Join me on this discovery and awakening – Develop Your Intuition Skills.

 

How To Quiet Your Monday Morning Quarterback Voice

monday morning quarterbackAt one time or another, we’ve all done something that with the hindsight of the Monday morning quarterback, you realize was so stupid, wasteful, unnecessary, fill in the blank ________________.

It’s so easy after the fact to see everything you could have done differently or avoided all together. Just like all the sports fans that love to comment on Sunday’s games with all their great advice and criticism after watching the game, we tend to do this to ourselves on a daily basis. Often it is so routine in our unspoken thoughts; we are not even aware or tuned into it.

For many years, no matter what I did, I automatically heard the words in my head that I could have done it better or worse, I shouldn’t have done that at all. Every meal I cooked, every post I wrote, every conversation I had, every little decision I made – or big or small my immediate reaction was comparison. It was exhausting.

Do you know what I mean? How often are you your own Monday morning quarterback?

I am not talking about regret exactly. Regret is much heavier, critical, and more impactful in keeping you stuck in creating the same mistakes again and again. If that’s the case for you, click here for the #TappyBreak on regret. 

What I am describing here is the nagging feeling that no matter what you’ve done, you could have, should have done it better.

It’s so easy in hindsight to look back and see more parts to the picture. It’s also easy to judge based on results. But even when things work out fine, you still feel this nagging sense of “not good enough.” Wouldn’t it be great to let that go?!

To just feel satisfied, pleased, and content with what you do. To bless it with good intentions before doing it, knowing you have done your best in the given situation and deciding to let it be enough.

Aah, freedom. So, let’s collectively choose this.

First let’s address the habit of what you are doing. In most cases, that’s all it is – a habit – a conditioned response that you have been doing for so long, you don’t even think about it.

Second, let’s explore when it started. What created this pattern in you in the first place?

Third, let’s clear the trigger, the emotion and the experiences that are attached to this conditioned response.

Lastly, we’ll create new a new systematic positive response where you choose how you want to feel and think more routinely.

That’s this week’s #TappyBreak. I hope you will join me to clear that resistant little voice that always pipes up with – “you could have done it better.”

How To Turn Your Sadness to Joy

it's ok to feel sadSadness. It’s probably not a topic you want brought to your awareness, especially if you are not actively feeling it. When it does attempt to get your attention, many try to squelch it when blues try to worm their way out. So you tuck it away, ignore it, do anything to avoid feeling your sadness.

What are your great tricks at camouflaging when the notes of sadness try to sing their song?

Why is it that you feel so uncomfortable with sadness? Even when it’s justified, so many people try to rush through it, not allowing themselves enough space or time to fully feel the full expression of their sadness or grief.

So many people are storing old sadness so deeply that they have no idea it exists or how it is keeping them from experiencing a fuller expression of joy. Although hidden, sadness is still there and occasionally may attempt its escape.

It is ok to feel sad, and even more ok to acknowledge it. 

Like all emotions, there is a message for you if you are willing to listen.

Perhaps your body cannot hold onto these old feelings anymore. Maybe your spirit is attempting to free you of a burden so you can manifest something you desire. Often when we ask for something, we are not prepared for how it come to us. Releasing buried emotions may be part of the answer.

You may be triggered by an event, something you hear or see. Your subconscious remembers even if you don’t. Feeling the sadness, naming it, and releasing it will remove the triggers.

Tapping allows for a healthy, non-invasive way to feel, name, and let go of the feelings that you try so hard to avoid, stamp on, and bury.

Today, let the gurgles of sadness make their way to your consciousness.

Make a list of times that you remember experiencing sadness. If you tune in, is there some remnant of sadness left?

What makes you sad?

What do you do when you feel sad?

Why do you avoid feeling your sadness?

Bring your answers to this episode of #TappyBreak. Let your sadness be fully expressed in the safe space of tapping that provides.

ON THE OTHER SIDE OF SADNESS IS JOY!

Let’s experience more joy individually and collectively for a happier world. It begins with you and me. 

 

How To Find Your Strength In Surrender

Surrender Charlie and Rose.jpegSurrender. Does it mean you give up or that you give in to the struggle, stop fighting, forcing and pushing against all odds? Does it mean that you are weak?  Can you find strength in surrender?

How do you know when its time to stop fighting the inevitability of an end and surrender or keep pushing hoping things will change?

Faith. Having faith in yourself and your own ability. Having faith in a power greater than you, whether you call it God, the universe, a higher power, or your higher self.

Knowing that you have done all you can and trusting its time to let go are learned from experience and also by tuning into an inner wisdom – your intuition. It’s a sign of strength to surrender and let go of something that is not serving your highest good, or cannot continue the way that it is.

Letting go to control and allowing something greater than you to come in – that is surrender and peace.

Here’s a beautiful example of surrender from the movie, “The African Queen” starring Katherine Hepburn as Rose Sayer, and Humphrey Bogart as Charlie Allnut. After many insurmountable odds of pushing through, having faith, using all their strength, determination and commitment, they realize they have reached the end.

The African Queen, the boat, is stuck deeply in mud, and there is no hope. There is no more that Charlie can do, and he knows it. He is spent. He has nothing left in him. Rosie attempts to encourage him, offer him hope, to which he replies, “ Rosie, you know it’s over, don’t you?”

“Yes, Charlie, I know.”

Then Rose prays. She did not pray for help to save them in this mess or fix the situation, but for mercy at the gates of heaven. She asked that they be greeted in the afterlife with love and forgiveness for their mistakes and recognition for doing all that they could.

She lay next to Charlie and slept peacefully, knowing they had done all that they could do. She did not berate herself for failing. She did not blame Charlie for giving up. She did not direct anger at God for letting her down. Rose surrendered to the situation with peace and gratitude for coming as far as they had – for saying “yes” to her mission.

In life and in our business, we often see our failures, and neglect to see the value in what we have done. Yet successful and happy people know the power of surrender and recognize when its time to lie down in peace knowing they’ve gone as far as they can in a particular venture. They don’t berate themselves or wallow in pity and anger at failing. They wake up and begin again. Each day is a new opportunity to reach new heights, commit to a mission and recalibrate their vision when necessary.

Surrender is not giving up. It is entering a state of grace, acceptance and gratitude for having come this far, and allowing God or spirit to assist you in continuing on this path or directing you toward another.

So what happened in the movie? While Charlie and Rose slept, the rains came down hard and heavy, lifting their boat out of the mud and into the river. They had surrendered, but they had not given up.

Of course, it’s only a movie and anything can happen in a movie. Yet the same is true for life – anything is possible if you allow it to be so.

So where in your life or business can you surrender to allow for the guidance, flow and support of the universe to direct you toward a path of success?

Where can you let go of resentment, blame, anger, and disappointment to feel peace and gratitude for how far you have come, not to give up but to surrender to the guidance and support for your next steps?

What To Do When You Can’t Fall Asleep

TB sleeplessIt’s 2am, and you are wide-awake. You don’t want to be. You are tired. You want to sleep. You are starting to feel stressed because you are awake, and you know that you will be so tired in the morning. Your mind is racing with all the things that you did not get done today and the endless amount of tasks in front of you.

Maybe you should just get up and do them. What, you don’t want to do the now? Then stop thinking about them. You can’t? That’s totally frustrating.

I know!

Here’s the conversation I used have in my head when lying awake in the middle of the night and I couldn’t sleep.

“I am so tired. My body needs rest. I need to sleep. Why am I awake? I have so much to do. Maybe I should just get up. I don’t want to get up. I want to sleep. I’ll breathe and count myself back to sleep. Shoot. I forgot about that. I have to remember to do that. Breathe, relax, and breathe. Another great idea appears. Now my mind is racing with excitement. Breathe, relax, and breathe. Then another thought pops in and my mind is off again. I may as well just get up. NO. I want to sleep. Breathe, relax, breathe.”

After a couple of hours of tossing and turning, I would finally get up and write, then finally about an hour before I have to be up for the day, I would sink into a deep sleep. It wasn’t pretty or pleasant.

What’s the dialogue in your head when you wake up in the middle of the night? What keeps you awake? Is it worry, planning, criticizing, pain, ideas being generated at lightening speed?

Would you like to try something else? Something that will help you fall back to sleep easily? So many people have asked me to created a tapping video to help them fall asleep, so here it is.

Today we are tapping on this very issue in #TappyBreak – I am wide-awake and I can’t fall back to sleep.

After today you won’t have that problem anymore.

So join me for #tappybreak – who knows, just doing the tapping today may take care of the middle of the night wake up calls and if it doesn’t you will have the video next time so you know what to do when you can’t fall asleep.

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